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To think this is continuation of abuse?

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Beadoren · 26/12/2019 00:36

Will try to spare details here. Have recently severed ties with my ex who was very financially abusive, controlled money, would not allow me to have anything in my own name etc. After cutting all direct contact and going through CMA, ex followed through with threats and cut off everything he had kept in his name, resulting in me and dcs losing our home. Decision was made that ex does not have to pay maintenance due to “financial hardship” (I am entirely convinced this is not true). It has been five months since he has paid anything towards our children, they came home with quite obscene gifts “from them” which are quite personal and expensive gifts. I feel like it’s a sickening display of over familiarity and a bit of a slap in the face. I don’t understand why you would do that and refuse to contribute towards your own children’s upbringing. Aibu to interpret this as a malicious gesture? I just find it so innapropriate and frustrating

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Drecci · 26/12/2019 00:47

I'm the same. If he's so hard up, he'll be on benefits and your kids are still entitled to the bare minimum percentage of that. Tell them that.

ferntwist · 26/12/2019 06:35

YANBU. What a bastard

Shewhomustgowithoutname · 26/12/2019 07:07

My xh was a financial nightmare. Never paid any bills. I came out of hospital with a new baby to find there was a gas leak which he would not get fixed in case he had to pay the bill.
My child is now an adult and not one penny has been paid for DC in Maintenance and almost £50,000 is owed to me. I wont get a penny as he is on a benefit which cant have money deducted.
All that is bad enough but he got in touch with DC after they became adult and claims he did pay maintenance. The DC believe him so there is a huge wedge between me and DC.

Ensuring maintenance for children should be pursued much more strongly. Such father should be dealt with more strongly for the neglect of the children

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