To expect boyfriend to call on Xmas Day?

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Been with bf for a while now but we’re not living together and are long distance.

He was at mine last weekend and is going to be staying with me from 27th onwards for a few days. But today, no Christmas phone call. I’m pretty upset about family drama that happened today which may be colouring my view but am I being unreasonable to expect him to want to speak by phone today?

I sent him a happy Christmas WhatsApp this morning because I knew he was driving from one city to another so wasn’t sure he could talk. He sent me one back saying “thanks have a wonderful
Day” making it pretty clear he wasn’t expecting to speak or text further. I didn’t feel I could (or was welcome to) call him after getting that.

We’re both with our families today so not expecting to talk for ages or even WhatsApp a lot but a “happy Christmas” phone call wouldn’t have gone amiss given we hardly see each other anyway.

So help - AIBU?

YANBU. I call my nearest and dearest on Christmas day but, sure, everyone's different.
Leave the twat to it!

Perhaps he’s thinking the same about you. And is waiting for you to call him and wondering why you aren’t.

Why don’t you just phone him?

I'd message asking how his Christmas day was.

Thanks all - I think I would have phoned him if his message hadn’t implied he didn’t want to speak again.

I think maybe it feeds into a bigger thing I’ve posted about before in that his family don’t know about me and I wonder if he’s ashamed of embarrassed to speak to me around them. Which makes me feel really shit.

YABU, that message doesn’t say ‘I don’t want to speak any further’, he’s just wishing you a good day. For all he knows you’re too busy with family to talk.

Why wouldn’t you just message him saying ‘are you around for a quick Christmas call later?’ if you want to speak to him?

Ah ok, that’s a bigger issue indeed. I’m not sure that I’d think the message meant he didn’t want you to phone him. But can see why in that context it would seem like that to you.

YANBU. That's pretty shit, sorry OP.

Even my ex of some years has whatsapped me several times throughout the day.

If his family dont know about you by this point in your Relationship, this isnt going anywhere. Time to move on