My husband doesn't like most of his family. There's a history of disagreements with them and DP just didn't want to know. When we got married, I made a real effort with them, especially one who had a kid the same time as me (A). But it just backfired in my face.
Fast forward, and we had a disagreement with Avabout their lack of consideration. It ended in them making up a lot of stuff to the nan, but worst of all, taking my kids presents back at Christmas, something I will never forgive them for. Ok, fall out with me, but don't take it out on the kids.
This was 3 years ago and we haven't seen them since, plus they are blocked on social media. I get a message from my SIL saying she hopes I don't mind, but she's passed on a picture of my kids from my FB page, which is set to private, to A so they can make a calendar picture for her nan. Nice sentiment, but I mind, a lot. And I told her this. Mainly because I don't even know which picture was chosen, and my feelings were not considered. These are my kids afterall. She said she would "sort it" but she made me feel like I was unreasonable to not want to do it.
Then imagine my surprise this morning when I find out the picture is still in the calendar as the nan tells me this. SIL happens to turn up and I said "DPs nan has just told me that picture I did not want in the calendar is in there". She just storms off and doesn't speak to me for the rest of the time. I'm now upset with the way she handled it, and again, just brushed my feelings aside.
First of all, AIBU, but also WWYD now?