Xmas with OH family never goes smoothly.
1 week before Xmas, bil invites us for Xmas Dinner, we kindly declined, with health issues watching what we eat, plus with 1 week before Xmas, we had made our own plans and brought most our food in for Xmas Dinner.
Anyway, the plan was that mil and Fil would go to theirs to eat and we would join around 4pm for a few hours before DS1 bedtime.
Last Night OH got a message saying Xmas was off, the only person welcome in his house was Fil, as he was the only person coming without imposing restrictions or rules .
The gist of what j got today, was thst because mil was working and didn't want to go late last night, bil said not to bother coming at all.
Mil came here today to see DS1, so she ended up eating with us as I couldn't see her on her own, even though she's a difficult character!
During the tects today, bil said to OH, we could come, but that's our plans not theirs and that he would 'grin and bare it'.
Just think it's rude.
To add he is 39 with no children, we have DS who's 1. There's a lot of emphasis about 'your family' as in me and DS, yes that is right, we are a family within our own right.
His way or the highway it seems.
So I've refused to go now...
AIBU?