to really hate it when dh shouts at ds...

[theUrbanDryad]

...when he falls off the bed?

example: when i was running a bath for ds this evening i heard "NO!" and ds crying really hard. what had happened was that ds had fallen off the bed and dh had shouted in surprise. IMO what really made him cry was being shouted at, not the fall (he didn't really hurt himself)

AIBU to have a go at dh for shouting? he says it's a natural reaction of surprise, but i don't shout at ds on the few occasions he's fallen off anywhere (never anywhere very high and he's never seriously hurt himself, i should add!) so i don't see why dh has to.

because he is a man.

but AIBU?

Yes YABU.

TBH, when my ds first climbed on my wall (!), I shouted STOP. It is a natural response to something imho.

yes, yabu, natural reaction.
eveyrone is shocked. spect ds is cryign cos of the shock, dh is shouting cos of the shock etc.etc

ummm, i would have shouted at at DH for letting him fall off the bed.

I think it was natural reaction...but also a bit odd.

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Actually, it may be a natural reaction to shout but as adults I believe we can control our reactions.

Maybe I'm wrong but we should at least try.

ds launches himself off everywhere at the moment. perhaps i should point out it's actually a mattress on the floor, so it's not really that high!

Having extra information...

UrbanDryad is definately right here

Hmm, I think you fear that they will get really hurt so you shout to try and stop them.
But as long as he picked him up and fussed him and cuddles him after that to calm him down then surely it's ok.

huh - well i had to get the drinks (had a bet on with dh)

thanks for you "support" ladies!

dh is doing a small dance of victory.