AIBU?
To be annoyed DS dad hasnt turned up
AlrightyyThen · 25/12/2019 14:09
DS is 3 and doesn’t like to go his dads so actually he’s happy where he is
but I still think it’s disgraceful to not turn up for your child on Xmas day. I haven’t even made a dinner for us because there was only going to be me in the house 
He’s always hours and hours late, the reason being he works 2 night shifts in a row once a fortnight so he says his sleeping pattern is messed up and he needs to sleep all day. The day after a nightshift finishing at 6am (this morning) he would normally get DS about 5pm so he can sleep until then but as it was Xmas he was going to come at 12 “ish” and take him to his families for Xmas dinner
I assume he’s still asleep, AIBU that he should pick DS up when he says he will (opinions from night shift workers would be fab! - non strenuous screen monitoring)
Am I being unreasonable?
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His family is lovely and DS would have a nice time there he just hates his dad taking him (probably because it’s so inconsistent)Ratbagcatbag · 25/12/2019 14:24
Have an eat anything day. Honestly.
There's me and my 6yo DD. I cooked an Xmas dinner. She ate the veg but left everything else. She's just too excited to play with everything. I wouldn't worry about the lack of dinner for him as such.
With regards to your ex he sounds like a right twat though. :( your poor DS. Will he eventually turn up?
Fucking hell that's shit.MellowMelly · 25/12/2019 16:06
Yes it does mess with your body clock. My ex would get in at 6am and sleep till about 3pm, but I do remember days were he would sleep till about 5pm if everyone managed to keep tip toeing around.
That said, even when he had done a night shift he kept to the times arranged to pick up his son, sometimes half an hour late at the most. He hated the thought of his son knowingly waiting for him.
negomi90 · 25/12/2019 16:08
I work nights, this isn't about nights, its about jerking around a child and his mother.
Personally I'm horrible in the day time on nights and until the morning after. However if I promised to be around a kid on christmas, I would have made a big effort and kept it.
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