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To be sick of people who dump their kids on other people in restaurants!

9 replies

Lincolnfield · 25/12/2019 11:26

So, yesterday my husband, sister and brother in law went out for lunch at a lovely country pub. I’d booked a table ages ago because it’s very popular and I knew Christmas Eve lunchtime would be really busy. I asked if we could have a quieter corner if possible because my husband is very deaf and with his hearing aids if there’s lots of noise, particularly behind him, he does struggle to hear us talking to him. The hearing aids seem to amplify background noise but without them, he can’t hear at all.

The pub is really old with lots of small rooms and nooks and crannies all sort of interlinked by open doorways and the people at the pub were brilliant. They put us in a little corner table which should have been great - UNTIL! A family of six adults and five children arrived and were seated in the same area as us. The adults promptly sat at the table next to us while the children were deposited on a separate table Away from the adults behind us. The kids were a bloody nightmare. I’m not a child hater and totally understand that on Christmas Eve they were going to be really excited, but they were Incredibly loud, either shouting or arguing with each other. Occasionally, one or more of them would jump up and run behind us hitting either me or my sister in the back.

What did the adults do or say? Absolutely nothing! They were having a lovely time enjoying their meal and chatting to each other without so much as a glance in the direction of the children.

The final straw was when one of the little darlings spilt a glass of coke down the back of my sister’s chair. Fortunately, most of it went in the floor although some went on my sister’s skirt.

I went over to the adults’ table and just asked them quietly and politely if they wouldn’t mind just keeping an eye on their children and explained that my husband was struggling to hear our conversation because of his deafness and the racket the kids were making. The grandmother said, ‘I’m surprised he can hear them if he’s that deaf’ - said with heavy emphasis on ‘that’. I was so bloody angry and gobsmacked to be honest. I just glared at the woman and walked away.

That family really spoiled our lunchtime for us. I hope they have a wonderful Christmas!! Selfish sods!

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AntiHop · 25/12/2019 11:29

That's very selfish of them.

BiteyShark · 25/12/2019 11:30

You should have complained to the restaurant not the adults (because it is obvious that they wouldn't care).

The restaurant are responsible for letting a table be occupied without any adults and also for not honouring the 'quite' table that you requested. You would have had more luck doing that.

ScreamedAtTheMichelangelo · 25/12/2019 11:54

Awful. I’m really sorry.

Savingshoes · 25/12/2019 12:28

Why didn't you challenge the adults after being hit on the back?
You don't have to be beaten/abused and then pay the bill at the end, regardless of the size/age of the person.
Big loud voice, shout "ouch, that really hurt?!!" And if they do not react "that is the second time your children have hit us!"
You don't need to even tell the adults what to do with their children, just let them and the rest of the restaurant know that their children aren't just behaving badly, they're hitting and spilling drinks over people.

Pixxie7 · 25/12/2019 12:30

I think you should complain to the restaurant

chocolatesaltyballs22 · 25/12/2019 12:34

It's really rude and unacceptable. We had to move tables a few weeks ago because adults were drinking and ignoring the kid who was playing something on his iPad at full volume - another bug bear of mine. Use bloody headphones!

HeresMe · 25/12/2019 12:46

I see this all time where people put kids on separate table, you bring them out sit with them it's a family outing. Id imagine it's illegal as they aren't with a adult if on their own.

BlueCornsihPixie · 25/12/2019 12:57

This drives me insane.

Tbh I think I would have had said something early on. And then consistently challenged them, if they ignored then complain to the restaurant. I might have been tempted to turn around and have a word with the children if they had consistently hit me, spilled drinks etc.

If children are outside running around that's fine but they shouldn't be running riot inside on a separate table to their parents.

Evilspiritgin · 25/12/2019 14:56

To be fair I wouldn’t say anything for fear of getting the fishwife/ husband treatment, anybody who cared about other patrons would’ve been watching their children in the first place

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