To be so pissed off at DH stealing my prescribed medication?

[borisjohnsonandthenorth]

Have sleeping tablets and DH has helped himself to them. Have tried to have a conversation about it but he won’t admit to it. I’m so fucking angry with him right now.

Of course you are fed up OP and you will find a great deal of support here. But in order to access that support you do need to give the material facts and not snap at posters who are merely trying to help.

You shouldn't have to hide them but as a short term measure can you not put them in a decoy? Like an empty clean jar of night cream or something?

I did. Merry Christmas.

I watched a program where to protect the
Child the mother had a locked cabinet of meds, knives etc. I'd suggest that.

However do you really want to live like this?
Is you relationship working?

Perhaps give al-anon a look, it's for families of addicts, alcoholics specifically but is very good for peer support

YANBU to be furious with him OP. Are you going to be able to sleep without them tonight? Are you safe?

I get it. Posters asking odd questions, however well meaning or helpful aren't hearing you.

You are at the far end if your tether living with an addict and all of the lies, the compromises, the second guessing and subterfuge that goes with it.

I'll tell you the same as I'd tell someone living with an alcoholic... Put yourself first. You really didn't cause it, can't control it and cannot cure it.

So tell him what he needs to do to keep your love and respect and do whatever you have to do for your own sake.

Have you spoken to anyone about this? Not for him, but support for you?

Best of luck getting through the holiday period and working out what you want to do about this... for your life, going forward.

If you need to put your tablets elsewhere, I would suggest buying g a lockable cash/medicine box and keep the key on you/on your keys so he cant access them

I can't believe the attitude you're taking with people. Why bother posting just to bite people's heads off?

Bloody hell OP, I’m out, your anger is palpable but strangers on the internet trying to offer you support and advice do not deserve it to be directed at them. I suggest you phone Samaritans or a dedicated support line for families of addicts or for whatever issues have led to you needing sleeping tablets. Those resources would be much better placed to offer something useful for you right now than AIBU.

Merry Christmas.

If he has an addiction he needs help it’s as hard as coming of heroin. I know it’s hard but first of all he needs to want help. Having done that he then needs to go on a reduction programme.
For instance diazepam which has a longer half and can be given in gradually reducing dosage.
It is very hard and he will need a lot of support. How ever angry you feel it really won’t help.

I’m not the one swearing and insulting people, just saying

Please get some support for yourself, OP. It's hell living like this. In the meantime, you're going to have to come up with some better hiding spots. Maybe we can help you come up with a plan or way to hide them better. I'm so sorry. The holidays can be difficult enough without having to deal with something like this.

@gobbynorthernbird that's out of order.

Why is OP being accused of having an attitude and biting people's heads off?

Is it because her sentences are short and to the point? There is nothing wrong with that, she is stressed but hasn't sworn at anyone. The poster who accused her of drip feeding was annoying. If you want an OP to intersperse long flowery sentences with xxxs and emojis, go to NetHuns.

I am absolutely fed up of it and if anyone doesn’t like that then they are extremely welcome not to post.

Of course you are fed up, but it's a public forum, and as such you are going to get responses, including some you won't like for whatever reason.

To be fair, the OP bit once and then moved on, then got piled on over and over by people not addressing the issue but having a go at her for her response.

OP,it is shitty. How is the rest of your relationship?

Thank you paranoid, I saw no need for the long and convoluted BS, it’s Christmas Eve and I’m knackered.

gobby that is straight up one of the nastiest posts I have ever read on here.

And indecent!

Op, it's awful that he's taken your prescription meds. However, you're being very nasty to other posters (gobby excepted- unnecessary!) who are asking fair questions - is he addicted? - yes
Is this an ongoing issue ?- yes

Etc- these details are important and people are trying to help. The time of year, Christmas for many, not for all, is irrelevant- you didn't mention it so people are being sensitive to you by not pointing it out. Many people who are struggling at Christmas want practical help and advice , not pps harping on about Christmas

It is hard my DP was addicted to pain killer s and his sleeping tablets were rohypnol(sp?) thankfully now off the market, they were scary shit. Any medication lying around he would take. If I had a migraine he was worse. I had a safe box with a key for all household meds the key I kept hidden and would regularly move to stop him taking my meds (I have a life limiting disease and he would take the pain meds or the meds used to protect my stomach) Thankfully he never lied to me and has since left the Army and the Civilian Dr he now attends helped him get off the sleeping meds and pain killers and get talk therapy. The army just handed out meds with out question. If he can be honest there is help but it is hard work both for him and you. I hope you find a way forward.

Hi @borisjohnsonandthenorth , ignore the flamers, it's Xmas eve, maybe some have had a drink.

This is completely unacceptable behaviour from your husband. I suppose you'll just have to hide your meds even better. You could tell him (again?) that you know he's lying, though.

You could tell him he has to o to Narcotics Anonymous- has he ever been, or had other treatment for his addiction(s)?

You poor thing, only thing I can suggest is putting medication in a lockable box or a safe and hiding the key code . I think you are at the end of the road with your dp you cant trust him any longer hes addicted and wont change unless he wants help. I'd not cover for him I'd actually make close family aware as it wont make it as easy for him.

I do feel sorry for you, boris.

@borisjohnsonandthenorth I feel for you but as a relative of an alcoholic I can tell you that having the meds in the house will never work. I made the mistake of buying and taking a bottle of wine to the relatives house and the alcoholic relative stole it. Only later did I think that it was a selfish shitty thing to do.