To think this is him still trying to abuse me?

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So when my husband left me for another woman he kept bringing clothes to my house that his new woman's son from a previous relationship had outgrown to give to my son. I said I didn't want him bringing anymore to my house again as I felt quite insulted he was bringing clothes for my son from her, the woman he left me for before I even had a chance to heal.
Anyway he stopped bringing clothes after that and I took it that he had taken On board what I said. Anyway yesterday he brought a jumper size 7-8 off that boy of his gf ( my sons 3!) and as soon as kids opened front door to their dad he shouted my son and said here come try this on' and proceeded to tell me it's from his gf son. I expressed that I do not want any clothes from his gf which I had expressed before and I felt like he was doing it deliberately to upset me. I don't want clothes from her! It was 4 times his size!!

To other people it may be petty but because he's been abusive towards me previously and still is, I can't deal with it.

To me I think he did it deliberately to get a reaction out of me so he has an excuse not to help with any xmas stuff for kids ect. He's done shit like this before

Now he's saying I should apologise to him meaningfully for being upset or else.

Tbh I'd just accept the clothes and then bin them. Take back control.

Of course you don’t want any hand me downs from the OW. As for giving you size 7-8 clothes to squirrel away for a 3yo

Now he's saying I should apologise to him meaningfully for being upset or else.

Yeah he sounds abusive alright. What a tosser.

Next time just say we'll of course he can keep it or I'll bin it not bothered either way except its quite pathetic you don't even know your sons size. Or great more stuff for the charity shop.

And wtf does he mean by or else?!

You're missing a trick

Take the clothes and say thanks and burn them/give them to charity

Smug in the knowledge he will NEVER see your kid in them

send them to charity, don't apologize either.

take the clothes and bin them/give them to charity.

He is only bringing them because he knows it hurts you. Take back control. Say oh thanks lovely and then put the jumper in a bag for the charity shop.

Laugh when he says he wants you to apologise. If he goes off say "oh my god you are actually serious - how adorable"

May be you need to say to him just because she likes people’s cast ofs doesn’t mean we do. Now piss of!

Like others have said, bin them or donate to charity. Don’t battle with this. He is abusing you. If he asks why your child isn’t wearing the clothes, just say they’re too big.