AIBU?
To think it weird they don’t get/send anything?
Sundancer77 · 24/12/2019 13:06
We don’t live in the uk and will be having our Christmas as a family where we are with Dd, 17 months.
My parents gave us some money for their gd’s Christmas presents etc when they last came over, my brother and sister sent gifts, our friends the same and even neighbours we don’t know that we’ll kindly gave small gifts.
It really isn’t about the gifts themselves, but is it normal for a baby girl’s mil, sil, bil etc to not send any gifts, money or even a card? They say they have no money, they aren’t wealthy, neither are my family, but they still all buy for one another? Would that piss you off/upset you?
Am I being unreasonable?
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halcyondays · 24/12/2019 13:27
Do you mean baby girl's grandparents, aunts and uncles? I don't suppose a 17 month old has a mil.
I would think most gps send their gcs Xmas and birthday presents, I don't know any that don't . My
dds have aunts and uncles who don't usually send Xmas presents. This is on dh's side. I'm an only child but my aunts and uncles have given my Xmas and birthday presents.
touchdaqueef · 24/12/2019 13:33
My DS' grandparents, aunties and uncles never acknowledge his birthday or Christmas. They walk past us in the street too. I am annoyed that people who are supposed to love him seemingly don't give a shit, but at the same time it's their loss. He has plenty of presents and love. Basically fuck them if she's not important enough.
Boobiliboobiliboo · 24/12/2019 13:33
DH’s family haven’t bought DD Xmas or birthday presents for 7 years now. We live 200 miles away. I think it’s out of sight, out of mind for them even though she’s the first grandchild. They buy for the local grandchildren/cousins etc. One BIL will always treat DD when he sees her (a day out/ice cream etc) which I think is lovely. The others just ignore it.
Outcome is that we barely see them anymore. Their loss.
IamFriedSpam · 24/12/2019 13:46
My brother and sil will only give gifts to DC if they're actually going to be seeing them (likewise we only give gifts when we're actually seeing the adults). It works fine for us as DC always have lots of stuff and DH and I don't need more stuff! I'm more surprised that your random neighbours sent you stuff!
Sundancer77 · 24/12/2019 13:51
@IamFriedspam Not really random, the ones across the street have given a present for Dd and our dog (they love her 🤷♀️😂) and the next door neighbours (holiday home) are quite obsessed with Dd (in a sweet way)
That’s why I not exactly expect but was used to in my own upbringing etc, my grandma giving me a Christmas and birthday present 🤷♀️
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