Family on boxing day.

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My mum and dad have recently moved near us after living 230 miles away. My dh is working away over and new year and me and my children are you g to spend Xmas day at my mum and dad's. My sister is going there boxing day but we are not invited so il be on my own all day. I have a teens a 10 and 5 yr old. The older ones are no trouble really but the 5 yr old is actually very demanding and my sister's 11 yr old 11 y doesn't like him. My sister does live an hour away so it is her turn to spend time at our mum and dad's but I can't help feeling hurt that I'm not Invited for even an hour later on and will spend the day on my own. Am.i just being over sensitive here? x

I can see why you're hurt, but you won't be on your own - you have your children?

Why can't you have a nice pj day and let your 5 year old play with their tots and the older ones chill?
Then watch a film and play a game

But you're going on Christmas Day when your sister isn't invited, so why can't she have a day there without you and your DC?

Why cant you go...im confused, it's your sister!!!!

But you're going on Christmas Day when your sister isn't invited was she not invited to xmas?

You have Christmas with your parents and your sister has Boxing Day. It’s perfectly fair.
You’ve said your 5yo is a problem and his cousin doesn’t want to be with him. That cousin deserves time with his/her grandparents.
Enjoy Boxing Day with your children and don’t look for reasons to be hurt.

My sister was invited xmas day but has her mil round. I think its more that whrn they lived far away they they would come to mine and my sister woukd come over but now they have there own house I feel a bit pushed out. I can see that I am being a bit unreasonable. It just would of been nice to be able to go round for an hour to see everybody x

YABU. You'll be with your parents on Christmas Day and your
children on Boxing Day.

It's a bit shit that your DH can't be there, but lots of people don't have any family left and don't see anyone at all over the holiday. Enjoy the time you have with them instead of sulking because you want more.

Assuming you've been explicitly told you're not welcome then I'd then I'd just pop round.
Unless there is some massive back story that you're leaving out then I'm sure your sister would love to see you too.

Cannot fathom any situation apart from MN where someones family is round the corner and you wouldnt just join

why not ask if its OK to pop round on your own on boxing day evening when 5yr old is in bed, to catch up with your sister & parents together?

if cousin doesn't get on with your difficult 5 year old, I can understand them inviting you on separate days.

Also, 4 sdditional adults, three teens/pre-teens plus a young child is quite a houseful; maybe they think keeping numbers down well be easier, and mean that they enjoy the time too.

It's one day. It's not even Christmas Day. So yes, I think YABU.

My idea of bliss tbh

You have your DCs to spend time with and you are there for Christmas Day so it seems a bit unreasonable to go Boxing Day as well. Just get some nice party food in, watch a Christmas film, play some games, all good!

Can you not just say 'I would love to see you sis, so can I pop over for an hour in the afternoon?' End of. I feel like you're making more out of this than is actually there.