To want a break from PILs over Christmas

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Every single year we have Christmas dinner with PILs and also see them most of Boxing Day. Every year. DH won't budge on it, endless arguments . My parents live overseas.

This morning DH asks, in all seriousness, if PILs can come round this eve as well. I said no, too late notice and too much to do this eve as they're all coming over tomorrow already for Christmas.
AIBU?

Very tempting. I imagine it would cause ww3 in our house

Let WWIII start.

I have friends flying on Xmas day because it is super cheap

Well yesterday was nice enough, but the absolute last thing I want to do today is go out and eat and drink more with the same people. Would really like to snuggle on the sofa with a good film.

To top it off, we're now also meeting up with DHs cousins this afternoon before we meet the PILs for dinner

Do you feel an illness coming on?

Eurgh, I feel claustrophobic just reading this. Surely you all must run out of convo after a while? My worst nightmare : shudders : next year I’d be doing your own thing on Boxing Day, even if it’s just taking yourself off to a spa or somewhere for the day. Bring a good book or whatever and chill out. Say sorry, but it was your Christmas present to yourself and it’s for Boxing Day and you’re going.

You don’t have to do everything your husband does, you’re not joined at the hip. Yes it may look a bit rude but I think it gets to a point where you have to just be honest with people and say you don’t mind seeing everyone on Christmas Day OR Boxing Day, but you find both a bit too stressful and so are going to be doing something by yourself on one of the days from now on. If it creates WW3....well, so be it. Your only other option is to keep on enduring it!

Really wouldn’t want to spend hours of Christmas sitting in an airport just to make a point.

I completely agree, I find all the forced constant getting together non stop really claustrophobic. And yes there's nothing else to talk about after 7 hours with them yesterday!! Could really do without these drinks this afternoon to chill out. Actually the drinks this afternoon would be fine, it's the combination with yesterday and this evening that's finished me off.

I will definitely have to put a stop to it next year like you say

Why not have DCs visit their dad on Xmas Day then fly to your parents in evening or early Boxing Day. We love being away at Xmas! Either way to keep visiting parents is UR.

I don't even want to make a point, I just want a break from it

Blue java I really enjoy seeing my DCs on Christmas, it's a big deal for me and for them. It seems so awful that DCs and I would need to give that up just to escape constant PIL inundation

PILs are now coming round after lunch today to collect their car they left here last night. So we'll now see them twice today

You really don’t like these people do you?

Do you need to spend Xmas with your dp?

If he’s not dcs dad I do t see why you have to be together all the time. Why doesn’t he see his family separately?

I like them a lot, I don't like spending every Christmas Day and every Boxing Day with them every year. I wouldnt like doing that with anybody who isn't my DH or DCs. The consistent nature of it turns it into a chore for
me that I dread.

Verily I would happily spend it apart, that would with mean me going on holiday on my own so as not to be here, or staying at home on my own if he's at theirs. I wouldn't blink an eye at either, but as I'm sure you can imagine given my posts, it would cause a huge row

I feel your pain. BiL is single, 50s and is round here every day over Christmas. He was here for dinner on Monday and Tuesday. Here yesterday 1-7. DH and him are at the sales now. Think he's coming out with us tomorrow, Saturday night, will take the hump if I don't invite him on Sunday as my sister is coming round and he's coming out with us on NYE.

hopeishere that's a nightmare, I don't understand why it wouldnt occur to him to give you some peace!