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Parking... Would this irritate you?

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dinosaurcookie · 24/12/2019 08:38

So spaces outside fit two cars between most driveways if you park considerately (and not in the middle but that's a different issue!). One of the neighbours parks behind me often touching my bumper, you need to park closely but surely even if you touched another car you'd pull back a few inches and not leave it touching? Aibu to let this grate on me? I have a 'star' in my bumper and I'm sure that is the cause. And yes I know I should say something if its irritating me but I'm not sure it's worthy of unbalancing otherwise good neighbour relationships! I just want gauge whether I'm being petty or whether this would bug you too.

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IceCreamFace · 24/12/2019 09:00

It's a weird thing to do definitely but I probably wouldn't mention it if isn't causing damage. Annoying though.


Smelborp · 24/12/2019 09:01

Yep that would be irritating.


RUOKHUN · 24/12/2019 09:03

Put a tow hook thing on the back. Problem sorted


Awrite · 24/12/2019 09:07

No, this wouldn't bug me - it would infuriate me.


Stressedout10 · 24/12/2019 09:07

When you say a star do you mean a dent or crack in your bumper? If so I would wait until they next park like that and then confront them about it and the damage caused, also take pictures and contact your insurance


simplekindoflife · 24/12/2019 09:08

Yeah, would really annoy me, and you're not allowed to touch other cars when parking!

I have an enormous tow bar on the bar of my car, came with it, are they easy to put on? Or how about putting a cone behind with a sign saying, please allow a safe distance please.


UnfamousPoster · 24/12/2019 09:17

My first reaction was the same as others - get a tow bar! They'll only do it again once! Grin

But, yes, it would annoy the hell out of me OP and I'd be pointing out the damage next time they're touching. On the other hand, at least they're stupid enough to leave it touching so you know it's them. As you say, most people would reverse back a bit so you'd never have known they've hit you.


pictish · 24/12/2019 09:23

My neighbour who is very nice does this. She’s right up my jacksie - back off love.

One day I came out while she was getting in her car. She said, “Sorry have I not left enough room for you to get out?”
I replied, “ is quite tight yes.”
She still does it.


Winterdaysarehere · 24/12/2019 09:24

Tie a really naff soft toy to it.


bigbubbles · 24/12/2019 09:29

In some parts of Asia they use the foam that you get from packaging- the soft pliable one, not the one that goes into tinybeads They attach it in small blocks onto their door and bumpers with cable ties.


cordeliaflynne · 24/12/2019 09:31

Start popping round daily to politely ask them to move back a bit as you have to get something out of the boot (have something in there to make it look real). I am sure they will soon get the message.


dinosaurcookie · 24/12/2019 09:37

Tow bar is a great idea. I cannot be certain they damaged it, it just seems likely and to be honest my car isn't without dents. I just wanted to vent as it feels like an invasion of my space! Perhaps I should become everything I hate and park in the middle... Problem solved 😂

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PettyContractor · 24/12/2019 09:57

It makes sense to park that close if space is tight and no-one is trapped because driveways on the other side make it easy to get out.

A good driver with an automatic car should be able to touch bumpers so gently it does no damage, and then as they switch off the car will likely roll back at least far enough that you can insert a piece of paper between them. (But it would freak me out to see someone actually touching my car with theirs.)

(I think it's actually a EU standard for cars to suffer no damage if touched on the bumper at a low enough speed?)


PettyContractor · 24/12/2019 09:59

To be fair, although I could park my car this way without doing damage, I would not like it if someone did it to me.


PettyContractor · 24/12/2019 09:59

I trust my own driving more than I trust other people's!


IceCreamFace · 24/12/2019 10:00

I hadn't even thought about getting stuff out of the boot. HOw are you meant to access it?


PettyContractor · 24/12/2019 10:02

Re-read the OP, and yes it is weird the cars are still touching after they are parked.

I park in my garage, stopping when my front bumper touches the back wall (which has a carpet off-cut hanging in front to protect my paintwork) but when I get out the car has usually bounced back by an inch or so.

I think you should ask him not to touch your car.


MrsCrabbyTree · 24/12/2019 10:05

I may be confusing real life with cartoons but isn't there something that expodes when touched HmmBlush. I'm imaging your neighbour crapping herself as her car gently makes contact with yours and there's a loud bang.

Off to check out the ACME website. Meep meep. Grin


c3pu · 24/12/2019 10:41

If they park touching your bumper, take a photo of it, then ask for their insurance details to get your bumper resprayed.

And get a tow bar.


Ocomeocomeimaginaryfleas · 24/12/2019 15:58

If the cars are actually touching then there will be a scrape every time someone gets in or out of either car and the suspension is engaged.

Drivers who need to bounce their car off other vehicles to park are just shit at parking.

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