Ive cooked every Christmas dinner since me and my (now ex) partner have been together for the last 11 years. But for the past 6 i have cooked for his parents and my mum. I never fully get to enjoy the day, im always checking on the food, making sure my children are ok and checking on everyone else. I feel like a maid, (ex) dp just sits in the conservatory drinking until its time to eat, his parents pretty much do the same and dc play in the front room with my Mum. My mum is a huge help, she lives quite far so always comes xmas but she will help me prepare the dinner xmas eve night and also help cook in the day. We have recently separated and ive moved out. Everyone is like a deer in headlights because i said im not cooking for everyone. Ill cook for me, my mum and dc at my house but no one else. Everyone is trying to make me feel like im being selfish for it. I have a small house so no way can cater to them here even if i wanted. No one has offered to cook and invite me round, instead i get the impression they want me to cook round ex's house like i have every other year. Ive told ex we'll split day with kids, him morning, me afternoon or vice versa but its almost like he wants the whole package or nothing. Aibu for wanting to actually enjoy this Christmas instead of catering to everyone else?