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To hate the use of am instead of i’m?

53 replies

TotallyDoneWithThis · 23/12/2019 13:26

I know I should get a life but it really grates on me when people use the word ‘am’ instead of ‘i’m’, for example...am really pissed off...am going to the shop...am not looking forward to Christmas.

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lazylinguist · 23/12/2019 17:05

Doesn't bother me. Not going to make a fuss about it. Been meaning to do that for ages.

^ These are examples of exactly the same kind of thing. It's been very common to drop pronouns (and sometimes auxiliary verbs) in colloquial written language since way before Bridget Jones. (It) seems a bit odd to pick on this particular example of it. (I) am not sure why it bothers you so much, OP. Grin

ScreamingValalalalahLalalalah · 23/12/2019 17:05

Was it not Bridget Jones who started the whole dropping pronouns thing?

I think telegraphese has drifted in and out of fashion for quite some time. Bridget probably had something to do with the most recent revival but it was definitely around in the 1950s, if not before.

I don't mind it.

MereDintofPandiculation · 23/12/2019 17:29

I've never thought about it before, but it would be common to omit the "I" in Spanish. You could say "yo soy" (I am) or just "soy" because the "I" is implied.

And Italian ...

And Portuguese.

But all of those have chosen to simplify by missing pronouns out, we've taken the opposite route of simplifying our verb endings, so only 3 versions of the present tense of "to be" (am/is/are) and only two for regular verbs (eg walk walks). So we don't have a lot of scope for missing pronouns out.

Iamthewombat · 23/12/2019 17:32

In written or spoken English? You don’t specify which.

MontStMichel · 23/12/2019 18:06

But all of those have chosen to simplify by missing pronouns out,

These are all Romance languages, descended from Latin. Subject pronouns were not used normally with verbs in Latin, unless the writer wanted more emphasis:

www.thoughtco.com/latin-personal-pronouns-120438

So “amo” was understood to mean “I love”.

It’s not a case of Romance languages simplifying, but rather complicating!

FrancisCrawford · 23/12/2019 18:10

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Frenchw1fe · 23/12/2019 18:10

No. It will always be ect instead of etc that annoys me.

Newcatmum · 23/12/2019 18:13

I write am when I'm messaging my friends. Or rather a write am when am messaging ma friends. Scottish so never speak the words I or my.

StoorieHoose · 23/12/2019 18:16

Wait til the op hears someone Scottish saying 'am ur" instead of I am. Or even "am urnae"

Butchyrestingface · 23/12/2019 18:18

Wait til the op hears someone Scottish saying 'am ur" instead of I am. Or even "am urnae"

Love those two wee stoaters. 🥰

Malfoof · 23/12/2019 18:20

There's precedent in English as well; it's perfectly acceptable to say, "please go to the store," rather than, "you please go to the store," because the "you" is understood.

”You please go to the store” is incorrect. ”Go to the store” ”sit down” ”take this away” are examples of the imperative mood. It's how we issue orders and commands, (and requests if the please is added to the sentence).

Butchyrestingface · 23/12/2019 18:29

It’s weird how “please go the store” sounds like a command, irrespective of the “please”.

Whereas, “please will you go to the store” is much more of a request.

Malfoof · 23/12/2019 18:40

”will you go to the store?” is a question, (you're free to say no) ”go to the store” is an imperative. The ”please” doesn't really make a difference, it only softens the tone of the imperative.

Pilipilihoho · 23/12/2019 18:46

"Will you go to the store?" is definitely one of those question forms that is "expecting the answer yes", though

Malfoof · 23/12/2019 18:54

”Will you go...?” is a yes/no question. The expectation might be there for you to go, but it's grammatically correct to say yes or no.

Heismyopendoor · 23/12/2019 18:55

Where I live it’s very common to use am instead of I’m. No one would bat an eyelid. Long live the Scots language.

Butchyrestingface · 23/12/2019 19:00

”Will you go...?” is a yes/no question. The expectation might be there for you to go, but it's grammatically correct to say yes or no.

“Do you have the time?” is also a yes/no question.

Better not to answer it in the “grammatically correct” way in Glasgow unless you want a sore face. Crown Wink

AgentCooper · 23/12/2019 19:03

Am no that fussed tbh (Glaswegian) 😉

Knittedfairies · 23/12/2019 19:07

I was in a hotel in Scotland a couple of years ago when a French woman was totally confused when asked 'd'you no want a hot breakfast?' Fortunately a French Canadian was able to 'interpret'.

MyMajesty · 23/12/2019 19:13

Sumdi gonnae explain tae Butchyrestingface?

Ah'm no sayin nuhhin aboot it, ne'err um urr.

growinganotherhead · 23/12/2019 20:55

TotallyDoneWithThis
I think you have misheard 'Am' for Ahm.

Where I am from (North East) this is a common form of speech and not just laziness. Maybe if you understood its roots you might feel less pissed off:
Today the only part of England where the original Anglo-Saxon language has survived to any great extent is of course the North East. Here the old language survives in a number of varieties, the most notable of which are Northumbrian and Geordie. It is from the ancient Germanic and Scandinavian language of the Angles that the unique local dialects of Northumberland and Durham primarily owe their origins.

thistimelastweek · 23/12/2019 21:04

@MyMajesty well, if sumdi won't naebdi will.

Twofurrycatsagain · 23/12/2019 21:09

Round here am agate to her would make perfect sense and have nothing to do with a semi precious stone.

Claphands · 23/12/2019 21:10

YANBU OP, it irritates me something rotten! My Facebook friend writes it all the time!

DontPetTheSweatyStuff · 23/12/2019 21:56

The use of women instead of woman annoys me. There's one person on my Facebook who is always dedicating posts to his 'beautiful women'

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