To ask how I can possibly be in two places at the same time and keep Christmas special :(

[eastmeanswestmum]

So I posted a few weeks ago and people were so helpful. You may remember I was asking about my DS5 saying he didn’t want to go to my mums grave at Christmas Day
All dilemma is now out the window as I’m stuck in the hospital with DD 1 being treated for meningitis. I can’t believe this is happening. Her treatment will be on going for the next few days so we’ve been told unless a doctor agrees to let us leave during the 8 hour break between infusions we will be here over Christmas. But to be honest I’m in no rush to take her anywhere, she isn’t well and I don’t want to rush her recovery just because it’s Christmas.

My issue is my DS.
He’s so excited. My heart is breaking for him. His dad is working over Christmas and we had already sorted plans. He can still have him Christmas Day morning for a few hours but this was planned for about 11am and coming back about 4.
My DD different father not involved.
So I’m pretty much at the hospital alone, we have a VERY small family so my only real help is my dad who’s helping with DS
DS will probably have to stay there xmas Eve - would you bring him to the hospital xmas day? do I bring the presents to the hospital? I’m trying to make everything as normal as possible and I know some people might say to leave DD for a few hours but I can’t. She seized for 36 minutes the other day. I can’t leave her.
I’m exhausted I’ve so much left to sort and I just want my little boy to have the best day he deserves

Sorry meant to say 11-3, he’s on a split shift

Yes. Bring him to the hospital and do presents there.

Would you say Father Christmas came here for him? I wasn’t sure wether to send my dad to collect all presents and take them tk his

Are you in your own room at the hospital? If so then have Christmas there in your room. Send half the presents to your mum's for DS when he wakes up and have the other half brought to the hospital, say that Santa knew you guys would need two Christmases this year so he divided it up. Dinner and other traditions can be done once you're all home again.

Hope your DD is better soon.

Father Christmas is so clever he knew that you were going to all meet at hospital and brought the presents to the right place.

Yes we are in our own room! Thankyou I think I will do that, I just didn’t know if it was abit depressing him having to come here but I know he will want to see me

I bet he'll love having two rounds of present opening!

I'd have Santa knowing he was being such a good boy, he's brought him half of his presents at Grandpa's and the rest to the hospital so you could open them together.

You don't have to be in two places at the same time - that's the job of the fat guy in the red suit.

It will be much less stressful for him coming to the hospital to see you and his sister if Father Christmas has left some presents there for such a lovely good boy. I will be thinking of you all on Christmas Day.

Talk to the ward matron/senior nurse/ward manager or a senior playworker about Christmas on the ward.

Ok, no one wouild choose to be there, but they really do pull out all the stops to make itnas happy and memorable (in good ways) as possible. A with younger DC, I think you can still make it magical ('look - it's all come here specially for us')

Agree with PPs - have a 'second' christmas at the hospital. At age 5, hopefully your DS doesn't associate hospitals with anything bad, so he will just be coming to see his sister and his mum. You could get a box of biscuits or chocolates for the staff and tell DS that Santa left them a present too for helping to make DD better. No one would choose to spend Christmas at the hospital, but what matters is that you'll be together. Hope DD recovers quickly