In the spirit of Christmas?

[AuditAngel]

So DH just called. His chef is going to be “all alone” Christmas Day and Boxing Day. We will already be 26 on Boxing Day, so I said “invite him on Boxing Day”

But DH says “he’ll be all alone on Christmas Day and Boxing Day”

I get that, but, we agreed on a quiet Christmas day as hosting 26 is bloody hard work. We already have MIL, and possibly her sister on Christmas Day.

I don’t dislike the guy, I don’t know him. I have met him, but never had a conversation with him.

I get it is a time to be charitable, but AIBU not to want a random employee of my husband in my house on Christmas Day?

How does your husband know this guy wants to be with his boss and boss' family on Christmas Day? It wouldn't be my idea of fun.

Boxing day is more than generous.

A quiet xmas day with 26 people! You'd barely notice him.

Oh god no. And if he doesn’t have plans he probably doesn’t want any.

He then put the phone down on me. When I tried to call him back, he didn’t pick up. He could be busy, but I suspect he has already invited him, before mentioning it to me.

In addition, 2 years ago, a different random employee was invited on Boxing day as she was going to be on her own. She Was a complete pain, and in the end i had to kick her out.

Palavah I agree, I would not want to be with random people on Christmas Day,I would be self sufficient enough to feed and amuse myself.

The guy has family, although they may not be in this country.

TheresWaldo we have 26 on Boxing Day, Boxing Day is always a buffet.

Christmas Day is meant to be 6 or 7.

Last yea4 we were 11 on Christmas Day.

Personally I would never knowingly leave someone to be alone on christmas day if I could accomodate them.

I have had various waifs and strays, old friends, loners etc for christmas dinner. You're hosting twenty six, will you even notice that he is there?

She has already offered for Boxing Day! RTFT @HotSince82

Unless DH is doing ALL the work of hosting then YANBU to want a quiet Christmas Day before hosting 26 for Boxing Day.

Chef is a grown up and could make his own arrangements if he wanted to.

disheveledpootea yes I read that.
However its christmas day that is usually the loneliest. Nowhere is open, everybody is busy and if you're alone tje reality of this is potentially inescapable.
A boxing day offer is still very kind.
My point was that personally, no I wouldn't knowingly leave somebody to their own devices on christmas day, if they didn't want to be alone.

I would not leave a family member or a friend alone on Christmas Day. We have, on the past had up to 16 on Christmas Day, but it is hard work and that is on top of preparing for 26 on Boxing Day.

But this is an employee who I do not know.

It means I have to dress decently, rather than scruffy.

DH does NOT do all the work. He is the chef, but I am very capable in the kitchen and will prep all the boring stuff and be at his beck and call (but get none of the glory!)

I think your DH is trying to do a nice thing and you seem put out at having to not be scruffy.

The employee wont care what you wear. They will just be grateful there are some caring and compassionate out there.

DH probably is trying to do a nice thing, but one which will result in no additional work for him, but even more work for me (as usual).

DH always wants to host, but I have to do all the graft, and yes, I object to having to dress up on my only day off.

My daughter is also appearing in panto and we have a show Christmas Eve, back in day after Boxing day.

Yes, I am put out as it is always me that is impacted. DH wants to be the bounteous host, and i get fed up with it.

Again, family or friend, I wouldn’t mind them coming. I mind hosting a stranger.

If there is a meaning to Christmas in our busy, consumerist world, I think it might be to be welcoming to strangers.

You are doing a very kind thing and deserve extra kudos for it being an inconvenience for you. All the very best xx