Post 40, divorce and babies. When you started a new relationship what were you most worried about him/her seeing when you first became intimate?

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Just that.

And how did you broach your insecurities?

I'm hoping to venture out into the dating world soon. But the veins on my legs are far from attractive.

Im not any of these but mine would have to be my belly my crinkly extra skin belly which is really bad also my boobs arent pert .

I just can't imagine it being okay in a new relationship

I'd had two babies, a little c-section paunch, a bit overweight, always had cellulite on my thighs and my boobs had definitely drifted southward.

New DH (of 6 years) has never been anything but enthusiastic about my body and sex.

It really doesn't matter. Honestly. A new dp will just be over the moon to see you naked, whatever hang ups you have about it yourself.

Don't give a thought about your insecurities!

Honestly, confidence and fun and enjoyment are far far more sexy than worrying about a wobbly tum!!

Friendly reminder OP that most women over 30 have bodies to match. Men are aware of this. It's not news to them. They will mostly be so ecstatic inside to be having fun naked with someone that likes them, like they like you, and the things you hate they wouldn't even think twice about.

You can't change it, so just own it! If they don't like it then they're not the right bloke 🤷‍♀️

I'm strangely fairly confident with my body and it's nothing to flaunt but it's what I've got. A beautiful smile, confidence and some cheekiness goes a long way in my experience. Men don't actually want these plastic dollies, they want a woman who can make them laugh, have a conversation with and isn't hung up on the way they look constantly whether it be topping up the botox, applying a 1000 layers of lippy or worrying about what wobbles. Sod it and just enjoy life.

I’m not quite 40 yet, but after 3 babies close together I’m really paranoid about my bits down below!! Nowhere near as neat as before. Honestly makes me feel ill thinking about anyone else seeing it

I'd be worried about how baggy my Fanjo is after 2 natural births

Are you only going for men with perfect bodies, 6 packs and giant cocks then?

Friendly reminder OP that most women over 30 have bodies to match. Men are aware of this. It's not news to them.

Nor should it be, since most of them don't exactly have the body of Chris Hemsworth themselves.

I got with my oh after 2 natural births and a fairly confidence-knocking ex. The first time we slept together he just put me at ease and has been nothing but enthusiastic about having sex with me for the last 4 years despite my wobbly belly and arse and my pubes. Yes I have actual pubes. I'd been single for a good while before he came along and just got the point where I thought fuck it, the bush stays and if a man can't cope then he's not the right one for me.
It helps that his ex had also had three kids so he'd been familiar with post baby body issues and insecurities.
I agree with pp that the reason a man/woman fancies you is usually down to a connection, having fun together and a bit of bravado at first until you feel relaxed enough to actually be sexy.

Good luck!