I feel guilty after break up

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Broke up with my boyfriend about 3 weeks ago after 6 years together.
We’d been unhappy for a while, well, I had been. He hasn’t always treated me well and so I ended things.
A man messaged me today wanting to chat and get to know me. We’re flirting and he seems nice.
However
I just feel awful. I don’t want to get back with my ex, I made the right decision but I know my ex would be so devastated if he knew I was chatting to someone so soon.
Is it too soon?
Does my guilt mean that I shouldn’t continue to chat to this other man?

Perhaps it’s just too soon for you and you need a bit of time to adjust your mindset into “single” mode.
Technically you’re not doing anything wrong, you have no reason at all to feel guilty, you’ve ended the relationship. However if you’re feeling like it’s all a bit much to be chatting to someone else then just take a step back for a couple of months.

On the other hand, a bit of harmless chatting and flirting can help you through the transition phase, it really depends on the type of person you are. Some may find it makes them question ending the relationship.

But YANBU essentially, chatting to a man, whilst single is not a crime

I think perhaps you need to give yourself time. Even when you're the one to end things, you often need time to get over it too. Six years is a long relationship, and three weeks isn't very long. Go easy on yourself.

Why do women feel guilty all the time? I think you'll find your ex doesn't and couldn't give a toss generally.
Stop it! You have nothing to feel bad about.

No need to feel guilty!
You may have been distancing yourself from your ex for some time and therefore there could be no problem with meeting this new guy,it's only meeting him,it may go no further than that or it might not,who knows?but life is too short to be worrying like this.go out and enjoy your life.
Your ex will find his own path,you cannot help with that.
You've set yourself free,now fly!🌺

You have no need to feel guilty at all but it sounds like it might be too soon.

The fact that you feel guilty says to me that it might be too soon maybe. But you really need to stop feeling guilty. You made the best decision for the both of you by walking away when you didn't want to be in the relationship. It was 6 years of your life, you need time to move on too even if you're the one that ended things.