My ds is obsessed with my ex. I think she has feelings for him. She keeps bringing him up in conversation and seems to know too much about his life. She stalks him on Facebook and messages him. Always trying to help him out and go out of her way for him. They are friends but by no means good friends. She always maintains that she knows him really well. It's like we are in competition.
I don't talk about him and if I go against what she says she will defend him and take his side. He can do no wrong.
He got back in touch with me recently and I would tell her like you do with your ds. She put in my head that he was using me and was contacting me because he was bored and I should block him. I stupidly listened and pushed him away and now we don't talk at all. She has since become very pally with him.
She likes to tell me that he has a new gf and will find pics of her to show me. This really hurts my feelings. I've told her I'm not interested in all the info but she carries on regardless. She can be quite mean so sometimes I have to be careful what I say.
I still have feelings for him but have put a lid on it and am moving on with my life. She knows I have feelings for him but it's like she enjoying hurting me.
AIBU to message my ex and tell him that she sees him as more than just a friend and hope he distances himself from her?