How much will I embarrass myself if...

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... I ask my ex to have sex with me.

We’ve been in contact a bit. It’s been a while for me and it was really good with him.

Would I massively embarrass myself? Or make him think less of me?

To be clear I don’t want a relationship with him or a friends with benefits thing, just a one off scratch the itch type thing.

If you cab handle it do it

I think you'd really regret it later.

If you cab handle it do it

I’ve done it OP. As long as you actually have no feelings for him... like you can’t have any feelings for him AT ALL. It has to be JUST for the sex. Which from your after posts it doesn’t sound like it could be that easy for you guys,

Not with the self esteem issues you have going on. If it was just because you hadn't had sex in a while I would say yes, but in this case, no.

And if he says no?

Tinder is your friend. I had a FWB before I met DH. It was great and we often met up for a shag 😂 I bumped into him about a year ago and there was no awkwardness at all.

Imagine if this was the other way round? I've got back in touch with my ex and wondered if I should ask her to shag me, she gives the best blow jobs although I'm not at all interested in her.

I don't think it's great to use people like this. It's also pretty demeaning to ask anyone for sex because you're desperate.
Get a vibrator.

Where've you gone OP?