To feel worthless

[Midwifehopefully]

So my friend put on her instagram follow my private insta if u think ur a close friend and its still been on pending for the last day when she has accepted a lot of other people.

I know it sounds petty and dumb but I'm 18 and I feel like I don't have any genuine friends who actually reciprocate the attention and love I give them.

@Midwifehopefully,
I have a daughter exactly your age. She is also in college and has struggled to make/keep friends in the past, so I do understand how much this can hurt.

I know my daughter is an intelligent, interesting, bright, caring and sweet person, so I know that lack of friends was not her fault. She was basically singled out in a very small school because she always avoided smoking, drinking, drugs and parties and was completely uninterested in that kind of stuff. So yea, she was never cool enough for most girls. In fact, she had simply become known as a “lame” person at school to be shunned at all costs.

Thankfully, despite being lonely, she has chosen to remain true to herself. My daughter has finally made some decent friends in a new, bigger school, so things are a much better.

Just hang in there hun and try to do focus on doing something which will be beneficial for you . Things WILL get better and you will meet good friends throughout your life. True friends will come when the time is right.

🌺💐

Just read you update OP. So pleased that you have high aspirations to be a midwife. Do yourself a really big favour and concentrate on your studies. You are so close to your exams, don't sell yourself short by letting unworthy 'friends' mess with your head. Come off SM and work hard. You will feel so proud of yourself when you get to uni and start to train as a midwife. All the silly SM nonsense that is giving you stress now will seem a million miles away then. Have lovely Christmas and a wonderful 2020.

As much as I would love the glow of youth back, mainly so I didn’t ache so much I am so glad I don’t have all this social media pressure.

People will come and go out of your life, at school, college and work you will meet the occasional person who is a true friend. The ones you would ring in the middle of the night in a crisis but honestly many friends are transient and are there at a time in your life only.

My DS is in the same year at college as you and it’s a stressful year. He is thankfully not bothered by social media. He has got in to running and does a run most nights, not a long one especially only 20 minutes but it helps destress him, he also does lots of push ups, he got his girlfriend to start doing them. Try and get a walk in every day if your not keen on hardcore exercise. Drink plenty of water, eat as well as you can and leave your phone out of your bedroom at night.

I’m glad you have decided to step away and good luck with your studies.

OK I'm actually really upset about this I know I need to get over it but she acted so close to me and she's so nice to me in school I bought her bday presents and everything even though she's not in my direct friendship group.
I've tried deleting twitter but I keep going back on it I can't stay off social media.
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Just remove the follow request on Insta.
The rest doesn't matter.

Some people are so fake because they want everyone to want to be their friend. That's what she's doing. Don't let her play God with your emotions.

@GiveHerHellFromUs I have removed it it's just I trusted her and I thought we were close. I don't feel like I have any close friends any more :-(.
It's not the request it's the significance of if your close to me.
I just feel betrayed ik I need to grow up but idk

I explained it all to my sister the situation and she said she's just unloading he r problems on to you and your too nice. She said she was looking for a reaction from that tweet and from now on just reciprocate her energy. She's the only person I love and trust 😖🥺

I'm so annoyed I told this girl who I thought I was close to this situation and she said omg thats so sad and then I think she's gone and told the original girl what I've said and probably bad mouthed me and now the second girl has gone and followed the private account. Now I feel really embarrassed. They're popular girls as well so they will tell everyone. Scared to go back to sixth form now

Are you the op Sadlyf?

You’ve done nothing wrong.

So you made a friend request that was ignored. They sound like spiteful bitches. You don’t need those in your life. Look round for other girls in your position at school, preferably avoid the so called popular ones, they tend to be shallow.

If it's any consolation, you're much more likely to meet people you have things in common with at university than at sixth-form college. Especially on a course like midwifery, where you all share similar experiences.

Urgh! That sounds like it's invented to make you feel bad, remove the request, unfollow her and move on

The best thing you can do now is go to 6th form college. I try and keep off social media if possible or just look at it once a day. Remove the request from insta. To be honest she sounds very immature. It like look at me, like me on social media and then I will decide if your good enough to be my friend.
You mentioned that you have your A levels coming up so I would concentrate on working hard for them. If they girls say anything to you just say I haven't much time to be on social media with the exams coming up.
You know what results you need to get your college course. I found once I left school I met people I had more in common with doing courses or in certain jobs.

I find all my college friends fake when you become a Student Midwife you will meet lots of like-minded young women who are on the same page as you. I'm sure you will make many friends at uni and on your hospital placements. I delivered my first baby over forty years ago and although I didn't make midwifery my speciality I loved that placement in my nursing career. Good luck!