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Original poster

To not visit my Granny?

16 replies

absopugginglutely · 22/12/2019 08:29

I’ve come 200 miles up the road to visit family and me, DH and the kids are staying at my in laws.
Unfortunately I have what feels like the flu but I’d probably just a very very bad cold. Yesterday I stayed in bed all day, mostly sleeping hacking and coughing painful bones, painful eyes and face muscles, I sleep all night last night until the pain killers wore off and then slaps some more I haven’t eaten a thing in over 24 hours now.
My DH took the kids to visit his granny yesterday and today will take them to see mine (5 minutes from where we’re staying)
Anyway I feel awful that I hardly ever see my Granny and have come all the way up here and am only a short distance from her but won’t see her.
I don’t want her to catch it and I’m also not really able to exert myself for any length of time either.
AIBU to not go and see her but send DH and the kids instead?

OP posts:
Booboostwo · 22/12/2019 08:30

Unfortunately you cannot see her. Can DH help her Skype you?

Alexandra54 · 22/12/2019 08:31

How would it be unreasonable to not (potentially) infect her with flu??

EstrellaGalicia · 22/12/2019 08:33

Do you really need to ask this?? If course you shouldn't go. I probably wouldn't want hubby or kids to go either just in case.

Go see her all together when you are feeling better, now fgs, get off mumsnet and get back to bed.
. Get well soon. X

EstrellaGalicia · 22/12/2019 08:34

(or facetime her as pp suggested)

Tetran · 22/12/2019 08:35

No you are doing the right thing, I agree with others, see if you can get your DH to help facetime or Skype her. Although it's a long way away, can you make arrangements maybe sometime in the new year to visit?

Shewhomustgowithoutname · 22/12/2019 08:39

It is not a good idea to visit older folks when ill. They dont get better from things as younger folks. It would be good to Skype her or even just phone her. How long will you stay in the area? Hope you will be well enough to visit her before you travel back

birdsarecute45 · 22/12/2019 08:44

I am not sure it is a food idea for your DH and DCs to visit either- they could be incubating that cold / flu.

MrsMozartMkII · 22/12/2019 08:45

You'd be bonkers to go, both from your granny's health and your own health's POV.

AtrociousCircumstance · 22/12/2019 08:47

It would be cruel to visit her and it’s good you’re not!

Sorry you’re so ill - sounds awful. Get well soon Brew

Spitsandspots · 22/12/2019 08:51

I am not sure it is a good idea for your DH and DCs to visit either- they could be incubating that cold / flu

^this was my first thought.

Disfordarkchocolate · 22/12/2019 08:57

I'm sure your Granny misses you but she definitely doesn't need your germs.

Littlegoth · 22/12/2019 09:07

We’ve got a similar flu like bug and won’t be visiting our very elderly relatives with it x

Littlegoth · 22/12/2019 09:07

P.S. get well soon x

Original poster
absopugginglutely · 22/12/2019 12:38

Thank you! I didn’t go I will have to see her over Easter now. DD and DH went and had a nice time I hope they’re not carrying my germs.

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Tetran · 22/12/2019 13:51

Speedy recovery OP!

NoSauce · 22/12/2019 13:58

Of course you shouldn’t have gone. Nobody would have said you should. Hope you’re on the mend now.

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