Would you be annoyed if your DP/DH had been out for this long

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Been out since half 12 today.

Would you be annoyed or am I being stupid?

@CourtneyB123 ❤️

I don't think it's the going out that's annoying you. It's the state he's in the next day.

My OH left at 1pm today. He's still not back. I put the kids to bed, had a glass of wine whilst I watched what I wanted to on telly, and am now in bed. He's out at 8am tomorrow for the whole day, too. That's his prerogative. He asked if it was ok, and I said yes, so that's how it is. If he's super tired tomorrow I won't have much sympathy. It was his choice, so claiming tiredness would push at my anger...

He came home at 12. Has just thrown up spectacularly all over my new bedding.

I'm fuming!

Thrown up in bed? That's awful! Is this his usual behaviour?

@AiryFairyMum Yes, I was just drifting off and he vomited everywhere. He was asleep too.

It went everywhere no, he's never done this before

Every time I see one of these threads I wonder why so many women marry such wankers. Honestly, you don’t have to put up with this shit, they won’t change and the cycle will continue unless you change it.

I hope hes cleaned it all up. You poor thing. Where is he now? Be warned. There's rarely just one vomit

His behaviour is appalling. What was so special that he needed to be out from midday to midnight?

Do you ever get that sort of free time to yourself? I bet you don't.

Whilst I think there is an element of competitive Christmas martyrdom on MN (with the assumption that Christmas must be perfect and women do it single handedly) he knew there was still stuff to do. It is 100% fair that he should share the load and he won't be capable of doing that.

Being sick in your bed is disgusting.

He's not in a state to clean it up, he can't even walk. Hes been exiled to downstairs with a sick bucket. No way is he being sick on my bed again!

@doodleygirl We're not married!

It went everywhereno, he's never done this before

It almost certainly won't be the only time.

Re tonight's incident if he is so drunk he is vomiting in his sleep he may well be at risk of inhaling vomit- which can kill.

Sorry. I well remember my 18 year old son coming home in a terrible state. He wasn't actually sick but I sat up all night to watch him. Fortunately that experience put my son off drinking.

@EveryKingdomOfRain Oh god I'm worried now do you think I should go downstairs to watch him?

I honestly would leave my partner if he did that. He comes home drunk sometimes and I hate it and he now sleeps in the spare room if he is drunk as I was bought up in an alcoholic family situation and don't feel safe with drunk people. Throwing up in bed would be game over. My partner has cut down but only after I threatened to leave him and meant it.

Many years ago I used to work in a dive of a club where drunk men would fall asleep on the awful sofas and wake themselves up throwing up. They were always sick at least twice, usually as we were trying to carry them out or they waited for a taxi. Noone ever choked though.

Put him in the recovery position on the floor with a cover over him and leave him to it?

If it were me , yes. I think I'm overly super cautious about this because that is how Jimi Hendrix ( a hero of mine and my son's) died.

Is he lying on his back or his front? He should be on his front. If it were me I wouldn't necessarily stay awake but would try to sleep in the same room.

Even if I'm being over dramatic there's probably every possibility he will be sick over your living room furniture.

Sorry OP- but he is a selfish wanker.

The rest of Sunday is going to be shit.

Even easier to tell him to fuck off

Ffs what a silly bastard. I’d be absolutely raging at being vomited on. It’s not that they the issue here now, what’s done is done, it is what he does to redeem himself.

I think Jimi Hendrix was drugs and vomit.

No I wouldn't be annoyed at the length of time he'd been out.
Yes I would be annoyed at his behaviour since getting home

Drinking to the point of vomiting is disturbing behavior for an adult.

I was annoyed at DH for similar last weekend but it was more about the dishonesty. He went out at 1pm. Had message at 8.30 to say he was heading to train station. Ds went out at 9.30 to look for him as he should have been home anytime but no sign so rang him. No trains all delayed. If he had told me i would have driven to collect him.

What really annoyed me though was about 11 he text to say he was in our town and was just waiting with his friend while her taxi arrives then will be home. I went to warm up his take away. 40 mins later i realised he still wasn't home so rang him to find he was in the pub as the taxi was going to be 2 hours! I told them to come home and I would take her home - his pizza was burned 😂

Usually I wouldn't be bothered by him being out so long but we are skint and over drawn so can't afford a 11 hour drinking sesh but also, if he was just honest with me about how long he would be I wouldn't have be expecting him home for two hours.

How is he this morning OP? Hope you're ok.

@AiryFairyMum Still passed out on the sofa snoring his head off.