Family member does not respect boundaries

[Christmasda]

How do you cope? Do you actually say it to them? The person in question is also passive aggressive and I feel has mental health issues..

I’ve had this issue with my in laws for a decade now. I’ve come to realise that you must must enforce the boundaries. Don’t wait for anyone to help you, don’t be vague about it. Set boundary. If it’s crossed speak up, create distance, go NC if you have to. It’s a form of emotional violence to cross boundaries. x

Depends exactly what they’re doing but yes, with family I’ll just tell them off as a rule

Just to add, mine are also passive aggressive. It’s a form of manipulation used by covert narcissists. Not saying this is the case here, but be aware of covert narcissism and if you think it applies, create distance.

Don’t get emotional because they will say you are “crazy” or “over sensitive” just say no calmly and politely without getting upset and if they react badly they have mental health issues / narc traits