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To tell my STBXH to bugger off

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TravellingSpoon · 21/12/2019 20:33

Split recently, so its still quite raw and I am in the anger phase, so although I dont think I am being unreasonable, I am prepared to accept if I am.

DH came to take DD out today, and when dropping her back, he has told me that in order to pay me maintenance, he is going to make me an employee of his company, and pay it like that, so it will look like I earn £300 a month more. He said it in an oh so smug way, like I should be grateful. He has already done this for DS1 who he pays money every month to support him at university, but DS does actually do work for DS (admin and books).

AIBU. I am sure that this extra salary is a)going to affect the tax I pay and b) affect any benefits I might be entitled to? Of course this isnt important to him, its about what is best for him, as always (hence the EX)

I have an appointment to see my solicitor but not until the new year.

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Lulualla · 21/12/2019 22:05

What's that got to do with this?

ivykaty44 · 21/12/2019 22:07

You have nothing to lose by going to the CMS as even if he was paying you £300 as an employee you’d lose out on receiving this money elsewhere, liable for fraud & it’d mess up your tax on any other income

Go to CMS and pay them to go after collecting your maintenance

Rosspoldarkssaddle · 21/12/2019 22:47

He wants to get his company to pay for you looking after his child? This will result in you paying more tax and NI, losing benefits etc whilst he gets relief on his corporation tax bill.
No thanks.

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