AIBU?
Do I force everyone to come or just let it go!
Runworkeatsleeprepeat · 21/12/2019 16:29
I have been given tickets today for a fairly local event, this evening, by a relative as they are unable to go now. It a festive event I've wanted to go to for a few years but not got my act together to actually get the tickets in time.
Here's the dilemma we are going to a different but similar event with some other family members tomorrow. My dc 15,15,11 are saying that both are really boring and will only go to one event. So I suggested to DH that we go this evening without DC as I feel that they are ok for a couple of hours at home by themselves. DH hates leaving dd11 Y7 at home alone even when her older siblings are there. He has done it a couple of times but only when we are literally a five minute walk away. I know I can't force him to because if anything did happen I would not be forgiven. So AIBU to force dc to come with us both this evening and tomorrow, do I force just DD to come this evening or do I give up on this evening and just go tomorrow?
Just need some perspective really.
Am I being unreasonable?
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Runworkeatsleeprepeat · 21/12/2019 17:56
No drip feed DH is just sooooo overprotective. 11 year old is adamant she's not going it's really not worth the stress of everyone moaning is it. I've messaged a couple of friends to see if they are up for it. However it's now starting raining and it's an outdoors event so maybe we all stay in and enjoy tomorrow instead 😔
Runworkeatsleeprepeat · 21/12/2019 18:58
@Liviasoprano if I didn't force them to do things they found "boring" sometimes we'd never go out as a family. I sometimes do things I don't particularly enjoy because it makes them happy. I think I was pushing it today though.
@nocutsnobuttsnococonuts Great idea for the future actually I've always liked to divide and conquer. The thing about tomorrow is it includes some cousins they don't see that much and one of them in particular would be upset if he didn't see them all.
Staying in it is this evening but nobody's going to be pissing on my parade tomorrow.
CodenameVillanelle · 21/12/2019 19:08
Yeah, that's not good for her at all. If he has some macho ideas about being more 'protective' of a girl remind him that if he keeps her dependent and doesn't teach her self reliance, appropriate awareness of risk and common sense she'll be more vulnerable when she gets to secondary school.
Runworkeatsleeprepeat · 21/12/2019 19:25
@CodenameVillanelle She's at secondary school and is doing very well. I've already had a discussion about it with him and getting him to reign it in. It's ironic really as he's got a much younger sister and has always commented about how differently his dad treats her compared to him and his brothers. He does it to the boys too always getting them to ring him when they are out. I have pointed out that when he was 15 he was out clubbing and drinking. I know times are different now but he's got to let go otherwise my daughter will rebel against it for definite she's one feisty character.
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