To want 20 minutes peace and quiet (lighthearted)

[Mammylamb]

Staying at my mums this weekend while we visit all the family for Christmas.

DS4 decided to wake up at 6 so I got up with him and let my mum and dh sleep on.

They got up at 930 so I went to lie on the bed for 20 mins peace and quiet (I’m knackered, have a period and a sore head, but also a full day of activities and Christmas visits planned)

Within 5 minutes of lying down my mum pops in to look for something. A minute later she is in again. Two minutes later she’s in again. Then my son comes up and jumps on me. Then I realise everyone in the house (including the bloody dog) are now in the bedroom yapping at me about one thing or another.

I’m currently hiding in a locked bathroom.

Aibu to want 20 minutes peace?

A bit mean of everyone - by which i mean your DH - to leave you for 3 1/2 hours alone with DC! They could easily have got up at 7or 8.

And yes I think people should give you a little rest now before the day starts.

It’s unusual for DH to sleep that late, but he would usually do it for me.

Just wanted a bit of mi own bloody space before having to speak to people. I’m very clumsy and don’t feel quite right when I have a period so I’m quite grumpy

Tell them to go away. Shut the door behind them.
WTF is the matter with your Mum?

I love her dearly, but I think she is a bit lonely as she lives alone. I think she forgets how all consuming small children and a job are that she doesn’t realise my need for me peace and quiet. Was in bathroom doing make up and she barges in front of me and starts doing her teeth and make up. And i felt like screaming give me some bloody peace. But I didn’t as I’d upset her

You are most definitely not being unreasonable. Next time, say. ‘I’m off for a lie down for 20 minutes. If you need to get in the room, speak now or please wait for 20 minutes.’

In our house, the bedrooms are no entry zones apart from in an emergency. This is because of DSS's habit of just coming in and talking to me - he's 16, so old enough to entertain himself if he's the only one up. He would be coming in at 6/7 at the weekends, and sometimes 1/2 in the morning when he was still awake but we weren't. He'd literally just come in and start a conversation, or ask something stupid like "Where's the butter?" (In the fridge, where it always is, he just can't move things to look behind them).

YANBU to want a bit of peace. Perhaps you too could set a rule - at least that the adults are aware of - that if you're in the bedroom, you're there for a reason, and need peace.