To not see my friend tomorrow?

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bluesteakandcheese · 21/12/2019 00:51

My friend and I have planned to visit a Christmas market tomorrow, with a hotel stay afterwards.
My friend has booked and paid for the hotel as a birthday treat (as it is my birthday next week).
However, she has been very ill with a horrific cold for the past couple of weeks - this is a friend who NEVER gets ill, she is a picture of health most of the time! She lost her voice and has generally been very poorly.
She text me this evening to tell me she has been throwing up today, on top of her cold.
I'm now concerned about seeing her tomorrow - with it being Christmas next week I will be visiting family, including young children and a very sick grandma in a care home. The last thing I want to do it contract a virus and pass it on.
Am I being massively sensitive and unreasonable or am I being sensible by rearranging to see her? Even though she has booked and paid for a hotel?

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Aquamarine1029 · 21/12/2019 00:54

Cancel immediately and don't feel sorry about it. It's absurd that she would even consider going herself.

Butterymuffin · 21/12/2019 00:54

Can the booking be changed without losing all the money?
It's good that you're concerned about passing on illness, but what about feeling concerned for your friend? Can you do anything to help her?

disheveledpootea · 21/12/2019 00:57

She won't enjoy it - most hotels will rebook if you phone them with a proposal of an alternative date.
You will need to be specific with them.

Opendraw · 21/12/2019 00:58

If it can be changed great am sure she would rather that. If not I would think the infectious period has passed might be wrong there?? However if you value the friendship get some anti bac and go and just don’t get too close...

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bluesteakandcheese · 21/12/2019 00:59

@Butterymuffin I'm very concerned about my friend and made it clear to her I'm concerned about her. However she is a trooper and will be OK (we all get sick!)

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bluesteakandcheese · 21/12/2019 01:00

@Opendraw this is what's I'm thinking, to just keep me distance slightly! She is a very close and dear friend. I'm just concerned about catching it and passing it on. Just not sure if I'm being hugely unreasonable.

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managedmis · 21/12/2019 01:00

She text me this evening to tell me she has been throwing up today, on top of her cold.

So she insuated that you should please cancel?

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bluesteakandcheese · 21/12/2019 01:01

@managedmis she doesn't want to cancel.
She said she will let me know how she feels tomorrow but I'm just concerned about her as she has been poorly for 2 weeks now.

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shakeituntilyoumakeit · 21/12/2019 01:11

I think she’s waiting for you to cNcel and she will feel relieved

VenusTiger · 21/12/2019 01:23

What if she’s ill the whole time and she has to stay in the hotel whilst you walk around the market alone? It’s not worth the risk. I’d be going with this suggestion when you speak to her, and tell her you just won’t enjoy it for worrying about her and also that you might catch it and that you won’t be able to have a meal or a Christmas drink if she’s being sick.
You’ll need to call the hotel ASAP though.

LynetteScavo · 21/12/2019 02:44

She Gould cancel and you should go with someone else.

Are you sharing a room? Like hell would I go.

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