AIBU?
Its Christmas. Please Collude in my Delusion. Feed my fantasy.
LetsPretendforDecember · 21/12/2019 00:03
I know IBU but I deeply love a man who likes me but doesn't love me back.
Tell me your tales of Hes Just Not That Into You the exception to the rule. Your stories of he only just liked her at first but it ended up with hearts and flowers and true love
I know its not happening for me. I know he's just not that into me. I know he never will be. But it's Christmas and I'd like to wrap myself up in a glass of wine and a cheering temporary fantasty.
Please help me with some real life tales of unlikely love out of a Just Not That Into Her scenario. Or just tales of unlikely love.
Am I being unreasonable?
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and go to bed.Stompythedinosaur · 22/12/2019 20:20
Not quite what you're asking for - but I can tell you about thinking I loved someone so much I'd never get over it, and years later realising I had, and seeing that he was never really the person is imagined him to be, and was actually just a little pathetic.
Ginkypig · 22/12/2019 20:43
I know you do op but surely dreaming about something that really won't happen will just lead to heartache and disappointment.
There are always exceptions to the rule. It's up to you what you dream but personally I'd like to see you actually get someone instead of dreaming about someone who'll never love you.
AllTheWhoresOfMalta · 22/12/2019 21:35
Not quite what you're asking for - but I can tell you about thinking I loved someone so much I'd never get over it, and years later realising I had, and seeing that he was never really the person is imagined him to be, and was actually just a little pathetic
Me too 🙋🏼♀️ Loved him so much he inspired poetry in me. Thought we were the exception to the rule/love forever despite the odds thing. Tomorrow would be our 17th anniversary. But he left me. It was dreadful. And then it wasn’t. And then I met someone else. And now it’s perfect. And when I saw Mr. Meant to Be many years on I just felt sad for him because he was old and sad and fat and bald and he didn’t have me or the life we could have had but I did and I’m happy.
Don’t indulge the fantasy OP. Aim higher than someone who doesn’t like you. There’s someone out there for you who will love you like you’re made of gold. Cut the deadwood and look for him instead.
LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 22/12/2019 22:36
I really agree with AllTheWhoresOfMalta's post. Don't sleepwalk through your life, OP. You know it's never going to happen with this man and second-guessing and daydreaming your days away will just leave you with a really bitter taste when the realisation of futility comes rushing in.
Live your life as is in reality now, authentically. Find somebody who does want to be with you. Don't become a laughing stock, no woman should be that.
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