5 days before Christmas and not heard from dd dad!

[MisfitNinja]

XDH is 'father' (I use that term lightly) to our 6yo dd. He has her 4 hours every week, either a Saturday or Sunday afternoon.
5 days before Christmas and not one of himself or his family have contacted me to ask about seeing dd over the festive period!!
I'm so upset by it as she deserves so much better. Yet, they all brag over social media how much they love and adore her!! I know I can't control their behaviour and need to not let it upset me but it's so much easier said than done.
I'm so tempted now if they ask to say 'fuck you we have plans!!' But a little more politely! But then I feel I'm being unreasonable and not doing what's best for dd.

Would I be unreasonable?

If he is seeing her on a regular basis, taking reasonably good care of her, and buying some things for her, he is doing better than many fathers.
Ignore their social media.

Well good she’ll be with you then won’t she?

Fucking hell @cakeandchampagne raise your standards! He sees he 4 hours a week! He is doing better than total deadbeat loser wanker fathers. Thats not a prize. Jesus.

Op, make plans with your dd.

He sees her every Saturday or Sunday for 4 hours.

He doesn't pay maintenance for her.

When she comes home and you ask her what she did more often than not she says went to the pub! Or stayed in watching Peppa Pig.

I get that this is a lot more than some parents but I can't understand none of them showing any interest in seeing her over Christmas.

DD hasn’t seen her “father” for 5 months. I had to tell her the other day I genuinely don’t know where he is. He’s moved house and changed his number.

Not to say you don’t have a right to be upset of course!

@takeyoutothemovies that must've been so hard. I don't understand how some parents can just cut themselves off from their children and not care?

Bloody hell dad sees his kid 4 hours a week and he's not that bad because some dad's are even more useless than him!

Same here, my two haven't heard a word from theirs about Xmas. He did refuse to meet them for a coffee in January when they text him last week, excuse was ridiculous and hasn't bothered with them now since June. His family neither. Very very sad but I can't force it if he's not interested

It’s strange his family is pretending they are close to her. It’s sad her father chooses to not spend much time with her.
She is spending the most time with the person who cares about her the most: her mother.

They clearly don't give a shit. If they message in the next few days, I'd say I won't be accommodating them.

as the child of a deadbeat that showed up twice a year as a kid (and never to his visitations) and who hasn't even met his grand-kids I can say it didn't actually effect my life at all.

I grew up knowing it was HIM being a bad person and nothing to do with me so dont chase him and your DD will see his true colours and she will know you are the one thats their for her (and thats enough).

Mine haven’t seen their dad in 3 years. Some fathers just don’t care