Is this emotional blackmail?

[mama2yh]

My husband often likes to tell our son “you don’t like me” or “you don’t like daddy” for petty things for example if he comes home and my son don’t walk up to him to say hello. Our son is 8 with autism. When he tells him this our son is usually confused and replies with things like “I like you daddy”. Sometimes he gets emotional.

It pisses me off so much when he does this that today we had a huge fight because of this.

How would you deal with this? Honestly Im thinking separation and keeping our son away from him. Yes thats how much it gets to me.

That's emotional abuse, it's serious
I would probably think about a trial separation

This is a really stupid and confusing thing to say to someone with autism. Sounds like your DH needs to read up on autism and work on his approach a lot, and it would massively piss me off too. I’d imagine that he does it ‘off the cuff’ and doesn’t think it’s a big deal. He’s fundamentally misunderstanding how autism can affect social interaction here.
I’d be having a serious sit down chat and explaining that I was considering leaving or similar, and that something major needs to change. And have ideas ready for what this should be, like him talking to an autism specialist, or reading certain literature, or whatever you’d like him to do. Then you have a clear request and he can be accountable to that.

Well I don’t like it.

I have a friend that says to her dd, oh your make mummy sad, you love mummy don’t you, do you like mummy, is mummy your favourite. I have said to her before that it’s not really on.

Honestly tell your dh to stop being a needy dickhead 🤷🏻‍♀️

Would you realistically be able to keep your son away from him, though? Wouldn't he have visitation rights?

YANBU that would piss me off with any child let alone a child with ASD who is less likely to understand what the hell his dad is getting at. Why doesn't DH grow up and stop worrying about his own needs before his young son's.