WWYD - buying own present

[dingledanglescarecrows]

Name changed as I don't want this linking to my other posts.

Silently fuming as DH has told me to buy my own present from the kids (we don't buy for each other). DD wanted to buy me pjs but apparently the ones she picked were OOS.

I'd be happy with a bar of chocolate to be honest, anything I don't have to go and get myself would be nice. I've spent approx £50 on him from the children.

So.... my WWYD:

A: order naice pjs, pick up some choc and some earrings I've spotted and get over it.

B: say no, you can nip to the garage, pound shop, anywhere and buy something!

C: do nothing, DD will be guaranteed to ask for why he hasn't bought me anything.

No LTBs please, he's not completely useless.

I am really hard to buy for.
Partner asks what i want it saves me getting things that i dont really need. I 100% appreciate everything but would rather him get me things i need like some clothes/ underwear etc, rather than an expensive book

I tend to put things in his amazon / ebay baskets / send various links and he chooses some and orders them.

Why cant your partner do this OP?

Although i love the idea of sending the older one into a charity shop with a tenner or whatever amount and letting them chose...
That would be pretty cool , come Christmas Morning :) 🎁💐

And if you're worried about getting the wrong thing, being hard to buy for etc, just do token presents.

I be perfectly happy with a £4 mini pack of chocolates from Hotel Chocolat or a £5 bottle of cava when the giver has actually gone out and bought the thing themselves over choosing something more expensive myself or being given the money, because it's not really from them at all.

My ex did this, made me wrap it as well! I appreciate this isnt quite the same thing. Tell him to stop being lazy n just get you something. He could have ordered it online if he cba with actually going out.

Option A would suit me just fine, because I am difficult to buy for.

DH & I buy our own presents from each other, at any time during the year, and by the time they are wrapped up for Christmas we've forgotten what we got so the gift is still a surprise - and a nice one, as it's something we really want.

I got my own present this year. I saw it, it was in the sale so I bought it and told DH he could transfer me the money.

Surely he could take the children to Tesco, to choose Mummy a nice box of chocolates from the seasonal isle. Then he could go to the gift card section and get you a gift card to spend at your favourite shop. Your children would have a gift for you to open and you could get a bargain or two in the sales. If he's too lazy for even a 30 minute trip to the supermarket I wouldn't get him anything more than a bar of chocolate from the DC!

Tell him thats not how this works and you expect him to go get your present.

If he doesn't then you stop buying for him (there was a mum who did that after her husband completely ignored mothers day and said 'you're not my mother' even though their daughter was only 1 but he sharp changed his tune when he got nothing and was ignored on fathers day lol).

A. Life's too short. Some people hate the faff of buying presents to order (I'm one) and just want the whole nonsense to go away. When I care about someone and see something they would love, I buy it if I can afford it, when I want to.

A. My DP gets stuff from my Amazon wish list, this is far better than letting him choose my books! It doesn't worry me at all. Sometimes I even tell him "I'd like this from the kids please "

Thank you for all your responses, I think I was feeling a bit sensitive early!

I've ordered some pjs which should be here in time and I've told him to take DD somewhere to buy me chocolate that I don't have to share.

*earlier

A as this is what I’ve been doing the last few years, birthdays too. Unless I absolutely spell out what I want, to the letter with clicky links and everything. So I might as well do it myself, as at least that means it will be available on the actual day for me to open.
DS10 has tried to be very secret about buying me some Lego, using his birthday money ❤️ I will be putting the amount into his savings account when I know what it is. He at least has learnt what I like.