I feel so nervous ..any words of wisdom

[hallybarry]

It's stupid and I know I'm being unreasonable to be so nervous.
Tomorrow night I'm going out with a friend and all her other friends.
They picking me and my friend up in the mini bus.
I'm terrified to walk onto the mini bus and everyone will be looking as I get on.
I'm scared to get on first but then I'm scared to get on last incase I can't close the door.
It's making me feel sick.
I'm worried they will be slagging me off as I'm walking up to the bus.
Do I have a few drinks before hand to calm the nerves.

It can be daunting meeting new people. Especially if you suffer from social anxiety. Try and remember that some of the girls at least will probably be just as nervous at meeting someone new as you are. They may be sitting thinking.. ooo..hallybarry is coming out. What if shes prettier/thinner/funnier than me. Remember these girls are friends with your friend so if she gets on with you chances are shes invited you as she feels you will fit in with everyone as you are a lovely person. Maybe invest in a bottle of herbal calms or look up some breathing techniques to help you relax. I bet after 5 mins you will be having a ball. Why dont you confide in your friend that you suffer from anxiety and are really nervous about meeting new people. That way she will know to stick by you at first. Try to relax and enjoy yourself. I hope you have a great time

You’ll be fine. Style it out with a big smile, hello to all. Nothing wrong with saying to someone, “how do you close the door? I’m rubbish with these things”. When I go to conferences I’m crap at working the coffee machines/water flasks. I always ask someone else if I can’t do it. It’s always been fine.
Social anxiety is awful, and I have it too but my coping strategy is to look confident, smile and remember that whilst you’re worrying what they think of you, there will be at least one of them worrying what you think of them. The first few minutes are always the worst, but smiles all round really help.