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Irritating School Mum

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BaubleWobbler · 20/12/2019 09:33

I have changed my name incase said school mum is on MN...

So I have a DS 3yo who started school nursery in September. Have met other mums a few times at parties and they all seem pretty nice.

But over the past couple of weeks, one mum is particularly annoying me by her lack of regard for anyone else.

Last week was our children's xmas performance and despite 2 messages from the class teacher and a verbal request from the head teacher, said mum has posted a video of the performance online 🤦🏼‍♀️ Her profile isn't even private FGS.

All this week she has been posting how ill her DS has been with sickness bug. Child returns to school yesterday but last night she posts how ill she is now. Can't stop vomiting... But guess who's in school dropping off child this morning coughing everywhere Angry

AIBU to find this woman a selfish cow? I've potentially got another 7 years of this!

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Strongmummy · 20/12/2019 09:36

She sounds like a twat. My kids are adopted and it is imperative they have no social media presence. I’d therefore tell her in no uncertain terms my thoughts and report her behaviour to the school. You then won’t have to deal with her behaviour anymore coz she’ll avoid you. Also block her.

BooksAreMyOnlyFriends · 20/12/2019 09:40

The illness issue is something you can't really control. If she hadn't written it on SM you wouldn't know she has it. Bugs are everywhere and you can't 100% avoid everything.

However definitely tell the school about the video so they can speak to her and ask her to remove it.

There will always be parents that annoy you. My advice is to smile sweetly but keep your distance and hope that their child and yours don't become best friends Xmas Shock

ThreeAnkleBiters · 20/12/2019 09:47

She is BU by putting the video online despite requests. I'm a bit confused about the sickness thing, if I was sick but DC well I'd still have to take them to school as no one else goes past that way. Or was the DC ill too?

codenameduchess · 20/12/2019 09:56

The video is not on, you can report it and have it taken down and also let the school know.

I'm with PPs and don't get the illness, if she's ill but her dc well what is she supposed to do to get them to school? There will be a lot of other parents doing the same that don't broadcast it on SM and you'd never know, but it sounds like you've decided you don't like this woman so anything she does will annoy you.

Thefaceofboe · 20/12/2019 10:13

@BooksAreMyOnlyFriends True but the 48 hour rule is there for a reason

Thefaceofboe · 20/12/2019 10:14

@BooksAreMyOnlyFriends sorry posted too soon...
... and no doubt her child isn’t in full health either Grin

ArchMemory · 20/12/2019 10:17

Report the video to the school - you should do that anyway no matter whether you like this woman or not. As above, it could endanger some children to be on social media, or less seriously many parents simply choose not to put their children on social media and shouldn’t have that choice taken away.

I can’t worked up about the illness point, for same reasons as others.

EvilPea · 20/12/2019 10:18

Yeah notify the school about her Facebook posting. We had a repeat offender and the school would just send her texts to take it down and that no filming would be allowed by anyone next time if they can’t be trusted

PersephoneandHades · 20/12/2019 10:31

Definitely report the video!

DryHeaving · 20/12/2019 10:38

I think schools should make it a rule that if parent / carers post these videos on line they will be refused entry the following year. It's a bloody irresponsible thing to do

GinDaddy · 20/12/2019 10:52

I cannot STAND people who post things (video, photos) online when they are repeatedly told not to by institutions for good, safeguarding reasons.

It's like their need to show off trumps anyone else's needs to feel safe.

Bloody unreasonable and I think you should report the video, formally, and make sure they hear it from someone because they deserve to.

OoohTheStatsDontLie · 20/12/2019 11:14

I agree you really need to report the video to school and I'd also report it to facebook or wherever she has posted it given she doesnt have permission to post all the children in it.

Sickness bug, if I had a sickness bug I'd still take my children to school if no other option - the chances of it spreading just from a drop off are quite low if she has practiced good hygiene. If she went to the toilet / ate something / was touching other children then that would be different but surely she can drop off her kid without touching anything

I had to pick up my eldest daughter from nursery when my youngest had been ill with a sickness bug and had no choice but to take my youngest with me. I held her the whole time, and stood outside the room after knocking on the door and speaking to nursery staff.

AfterSchoolWorry · 20/12/2019 11:18

Report her. What a twat.

Jellybeansincognito · 20/12/2019 11:22

Report the video- it’s against the law.

She sounds like an absolute moron.

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BaubleWobbler · 20/12/2019 12:37

I did report the video to the teacher the next morning but it's still there on her SM 🤷🏼‍♀️ Unfortunately, I know they can't force her to take it down.

Surely if she's vomiting all day and night she can keep her child (who isn't school age yet) at home. Not come into the tiny, compact cloakroom coughing without covering her mouth 🤢

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SomeHalfHumanCreatureThing · 20/12/2019 15:46

Report the video to Facebook, they will hopefully take it down

Jellybeansincognito · 20/12/2019 15:51

They can force her to take it down op. It’s against the law to post such a video.

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