My bf of a year and I recently went on a break due to problems with boundaries with his ex and him not putting my needs and feelings first.
Still on a break, we went out together last night. Had a brilliant night. He had loads to drink and got pissed out of his head. I remained sober. When I got home, he and I were texting and earlier in the night he had got upset (about his dd and Christmas arrangements) and later when we were texting he apologised. I told him not to be daft and that he’s a great person who is so caring and lovely. He later text back saying he was none of those things.
Later on he also text that his ex (who we have had loads of problems with, got another thread on it, and that’s the reason for our break) was a shit. I replied asking what she had been up to now. Now questions that he doesn’t like he doesn’t answer which is quite infuriating. I was thinking it had all been wonderfully quiet on the ex-front and there was a strong chance we were getting back together. As he didn’t answer but changed the subject several times I continued to probe but he still wouldn’t answer. Combined with that, me being very tired and him saying earlier that he wasn’t kind or caring was just making me over analyse everything. Still, he refused to answer and I ended up in a strop. All really silly but why mention his ex was a shit and not elaborate? After a really lovely evening, my night went sour.