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How to cope with friend's very vocal political views?

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malificent7 · 20/12/2019 04:21

My friend is a very vocal Tory...hates socialism and won't let anyone mention Corbyn's name. I am more left and i didn't vote labour...lib dems to get the Tory mp out. I am more of a socialist and said friend thinks inequality is inevitable.
I would mind so much if she wasn't so in your face about it...i dont bring politics up ...can we be close ? Its just i find her rants a bit much.

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OhWellThatsJustGreat · 20/12/2019 04:24

Can you not change the subject? Or perhaps when she gets started, just say to her that you don't want to discuss politics because you have other stuff you would much rather discuss.

LucaFritz · 20/12/2019 04:25

Tactfully change the subject or act like you didnt hear her everytime she mentions it she'll soon learn its crass to talk about your political views with your friends even if you did have the same views you don't want to hear about it constantly

Spamantha · 20/12/2019 04:30

I have a family member like this (but probably a bit worse). You can't get through a conversation without them reeling off some far-right views or a conspiracy theory (and they get very angry if challenged).

You'll have to try and be more direct with her or, if that doesn't work out, decide if theyre worth your time if they're not going to change.

GiveHerHellFromUs · 20/12/2019 04:44

Yeah just tell her you don't want to talk politics. It's fine to have different views but it's not fine to try to impose them on others. It was bad before the election but completely unnecessary now.

BeardedMum · 20/12/2019 04:50

I quietly dropped a friend because of her vocal views. They where racist and really far right daily mail shit.

Pixxie7 · 20/12/2019 05:07

Just tell her you will have to agree to disagree.

SpaceDinosaur · 20/12/2019 05:36

"Inequality is inevitable"

"And you're ok with that?"

But I LOVE a good argument 😂

mousemousse · 20/12/2019 05:44

Start calling her Jack as in 'I'm alright, Jack'

malificent7 · 20/12/2019 06:05

Lol...bless her. I do love her really.
I might get her the communist manifesto for Christmas and start calling her comrade but i doubt she'd see the funny side!

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SpaceDinosaur · 20/12/2019 06:06

Dooooo ittttt!!!!!

Sweetpea55 · 20/12/2019 06:33

After three attempts to change the subject I would grab my bag and leave. Its boring, tiring and its not necessary in a good friendship to shove your opinions down someone's throat all the time

Tardigrade001 · 20/12/2019 11:12

For some people it can be a way to over- compensate for deep-seated insecurities, an inferiority complex or dissatisfaction with life. Not all, obviously, but I know a few people with similar views for whom that is definitely the case. I mostly feel sorry for them.

Velveteenfruitbowl · 20/12/2019 11:22

I’m wary of socialism, certainly critical. I loathe communism (inevitable when communism has led to ethnic cleansing and politically motivated persecution of my family but also because I’ve read the theory and the history so I can see many rational reasons to loathe it as a ideology. Nonetheless I won’t deny the personal edge and recognise that this makes it more important to hear contradictory views even if I dislike it). I’d never presume to ban someone else from talking about it. I find it depressing but I’m happy to enter into an intelligent discussion or to agree to disagree. Your friend sounds incredibly tedious and I think you should tell her that if she isn’t interested in hearing your position you aren’t interested in hearing hers. It’s only fair. That is unless she or someone close or connected to her has been a victim of far left ideology. You wouldn’t try to discuss the benefits of fascism with a European Jew, you’d definitely humour any ranting they may choose to do. With the exception of that one limited (in Britain at least) scenario this kind of pontification just isn’t really acceptable. For lack of any information to that effect I would assume that this does not apply to your friend (but if it does for gods sake have some compassion). As it stands Either you both discuss the topic in a rational and civilised manner or you don’t discuss it at all.

Kittenbittenmitten · 20/12/2019 14:04

Wear earplugs or noise-cancelling headphones?

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