To have a big Barney with partner about his use of the word childcare..

[claudib]

Instead of parenting..
I was thinking from the feminist angle it was very frowned upon to use such removed terminology.
I think it sounds cold. He says it is a general term for anyone who looks after the child..
Our rows are often about division of labour and parenting so it just gets my goat.. let's see what you think. 😬

It really depends on Context if you say for example "which of us is going to do childcare for the first week of xmas holidays" I can't imagine being offended. If my partner said "why should I provide childcare for you?" when I wanted a night out I'd be fairly livid.

You would preffered him to say

'Are there any days I am not parenting so I can make plans?'

I don't like the idea of 'not parenting' as it implies that they are not going to be available if the children need them, they are always parenting but sometimes are doing other stuff at the same time.