AIBU to not want partner to go abroad for families stag do?

[Anon189]

So my partner cheated abut 6 months ago whilst I was pregnant because I had cheated previously so that was his excuse. Only admitted recently who it was and what exactly happened. Had her on Facebook all this time and even messaged her recently. Told me he’s going on a stag do with his family next year and I don’t trust him at all and said I don’t want him to go cause we haven’t even built any trust up yet. He wanted me to forgive him and I told him it would take time and he would have to rebuild the trust so I think planning on going on a stag do is too much too quick

Yup, you both sound as bad as each other.

Sounds like a match made in heaven OP, is this relationship even worth it?? I think you are both kidding yourselves to be honest.

If you don’t trust him you don’t have a relationship.

It will never work. Leave now

You sensibly don’t trust each other because you’re both cheaters so put it out of its misery and split up. Then you can both shag who you like!

Yabu. This is a shockingly bad relationship.

If he is going to cheat again he will do it here or on a stag do.

YABU if you don't trust him don't be in a relationship with him. If he was going to cheat he does not need to leave the country to do so

So you cheated
He was hurt
You still chose to have a baby together
He cheated while you were pregnant as revenge
You now don't trust him and want to prevent him going anywhere without you

This is not a solid relationship is it?! it sounds like the baby was to paper over cracks you initially created.

If you are both trying to build up trust then you need to let him go.

You've both cheated for whatever reasons, and now you've both decided to stay together. There's nothing wrong with that. Not an ideal situation admittedly, but it's your business.

Would he be happy if it were you going away?

I cheated a long time ago and it shouldn’t be tit for tat but yes it was wrong and I hold my hands up to that and @Featherweight my child was not to paper over any cracks at all! I would happily be a single mother, I am not that foolish to bring a life into the world to try and save a relationship and anyone who thinks that would be a good reason to have a child is foolish IMO. I have told him I do not trust him at all right now and that it has to be rebuilt. I’m ready to walk away from this relationship as I know without trust there is nothing but I was willing to try and rebuild that trust just not ready for a stag do!

@Appreciateyourthoughts thank you for not being so judgemental