Love bombing or genuine?

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I could really benefit from some external perspective.

I met someone three months ago and it has been a bit of a whirlwind romance.

We met through friends that have known him a very long time, socially and professionally and they really like him.

He’s a professional and has maintained jobs long-term.

He had hobbies and lots of friends.

Good relationships with family.

He’s lovely and kind.

But, he’s extremely clingy and needy. Constantly telling me that he loves me (told me after a few weeks), he talks about me being there one’ and how he’d never met anyone that he feels like this about before.

I think he’s fab, feelings are definitely there, but I can’t help feeling a bit overwhelmed and worried that this has all developed so quickly.

One of his long-term friends did tell my friend, that he’s never seen my boyfriend like this with anyone else, so, I guess it is possibly genuine.

Any thoughts on this. I’m being really guarded to protect myself as worried it’s a love bombing type scenario.

AIBU to think this could be genuine?

The responses here are making me think I can probably relax and enjoy it a bit more, but I will, of course stay vigilant.

I go along the lines if something isn’t feeling right then it isn’t right

Needy and clingy, overwhelming that is not the same as just wanting to spend time together and enjoying that time

I wouldn’t end it if enjoying the relationship but would put up some boundaries

But then again we do what we want not what we feel is best in matters of the heart

Sounds nice, except that clingy and needy doesn't become controlling, it IS controlling. You have an opportunity to tell him how that makes you feel when ever he makes you uncomfortable, his response ought to just be to tone it down, for him to ackowledge how you feel in response to him and move on. If he can't give it up its not an ok characteristic so early on.

Thanks all for your thoughts. One of our mutual friends in common sent me a text conversation between a few of their friends today and they’re all making fun of how sappy he’s become since meeting me. I am increasingly believing that it’s probably genuine and relaxing a bit. Thank you all, much appreciated

My husband told me he loved me within 2 months us getting together. He wasn’t clingy and we were both conscious of taking it slow as we didn’t want to ruin what we had. However he was constantly telling me he loved me.
11 years in, married 2 kids and whilst he can be bloody annoying, he’s definitely not abusive x

Mine was the same and his family/friends also said they'd never seen him happier etc etc.

He turned unspeakably possessive and abusive, credible threats prevented me leaving him, a terrifying decade.

Be careful. You may not be so much an object of affection as an object of obsession - that ends poorly.