To think of you can’t be bo here’s to add my kids names to our Christmas card or even get the spelling right, don’t bother Sending one !

[Lardlizard]

Honestly I’ve got cards addressed to Mrs lizard and family
Not even my dh name

Some with my dd name but not my ds name

Some spelt wrong

The oddest ones are the ones with my dd name on but not my ds Though !
From cousins etc

What’s the point
As you basically y sayin I don’t even know your kids names or how to spell them or even your dh you’ve been with 20 years !!

Hate cards anyway make the place look messy !!

Bothered

Oh calm down and stop being so dramatic

hmmm, I think this is a bit harsh. I have sent Xmas cards to people who are dear to me but who I see very rarely and frankly, whose kids names I can't remember. In that case I have said "to X and family". I have some very old friends who I have known since childhood and whom I have seen a handful of times since they had children.

My relationship with them very much predates children and while I am very happy that they've had children, the children don't really come into our relationship. If I knew the kids well and had an ongoing relationship with them (ie as a godparent) it would be a different matter. But I'm not going to text or call them and ask how to spell their kids' names and I don't see why I should be restricted from having any contact with someone I've known for decades on the basis that I'm not intimately familiar with their kids' lives.

When the relationship is with you it’s a perfectly normal occurrence.

Just take the gesture as it was intended rather than trying to take offence. It must be exhausting!

I write to x and family too

I’ve stuck them in the recycling !!
Like I said I don’t like cards anyway, I can’t stand the mess !!!

I think addressing ....and family is the right etiquette actually. Otherwise you could have a To Brenda, Charles,Izzy, James, Daniel, Sarah and Ben

Looks messy

If I’m writing 20+ cards, and several of the people I’m writing to have 2-4 kids then I don’t want to be writing every name in every card! I usually also sign ‘from the X family’ otherwise I’d most likely end up spelling my own children’s names wrong eventually once I’ve been writing so many names so many times

I’ve stuck them in the recycling

Make sure they can actually be recycled....

Like I said I don’t like cards anyway, I can’t stand the mess

Then YABU for not telling people and allowing them to make an effort for you! Just tell them.

I’ve stuck them in the recycling !!
Like I said I don’t like cards anyway, I can’t stand the mess !!!

Well you sound charming.

Just ask people not to send you cards if it affects you so much.

God forbid people should try and wish you a Merry Christmas!

Life is too short. Just be grateful someone has bothered to make the effort of buying the card, filling it in, buying stamps and posting!

Just tell people not to send you a card then. How ungrateful can you get

I assume you have gone back to the sender and shared your feelings, so they don't bother wasting time and money on you next year?

Or are you just over-dramatically anonymously bitching about someone who wanted to wish you and your family a pleasant Christmas?

If you can't be bothered to check the title of your thread don't bother posting.
^ makes me sound like a twat. Same applies to you and Christmas cards.

Why open them you don't care about cards you bin them so why are you expecting people to get the cards to your specification ?

I always put to x and family from Our names and some times even just MrsP and family. I don't care if anyone gets the hump

I can't help imagining you're one of my partner's family members who will have received cards from us today. Two of his siblings have kids whose names aren't spelt the conventional way and I can't remember what yooneek spellings they use and have to guess. Seeing as most people haven't had cards from us at all, I'm hoping they'll feel better than you do about this.

Just tell people you don't do cards and don't want to receive them because of the impact on the environment and the unnecessary cost to people. My sibling never receives cards including postcards from me, because I've been told they feel that way. It feels odd not to bother but it's their wishes.

You should tell your entire family and friends this, so they don’t have to waste another card/stamp/time taken to post, on you - miserable sod.

We regularly get a card from someone we used to know. It is always addressed to Ghoulest and Fred when DH’s name is nothing like Fred. Luckily he sees the funny side and doesn’t think I have a secret lover called Fred! I never send her one because in the nicest possible way our friendship is in the past. Perhaps I should one year and sign it with DH’s real name.

My DD wrote our cards for us this year. If she didn't know they names of all the family members she just wrote to the XXXX family. Do people really have time to worry about this level of stuff?

I got a card to allat "21" from us at "32" I don't even know anybody from no 32 ive never seen them

You're on about people's spelling, have you checked your post before hitting send..?

I have had a few cards to me and family ,tbh in timas of social media sending Xmas cards are ending ,my parents still have them hanging on string around the house but I think they are a bit pointless myself

It you did that Ghoulest, she might think you have left " Fred" and met someone new ?