For spending one less week with my family so I can attend s wedding?

[Rainbowhairdontcare]

My family lives overseas so I see them once a year if I'm lucky (mostly my DM and my uncle). In February we could go for three weeks but I would end up missing a wedding I've known about for longer than a year, and as sad as it is this is the first wedding I've been ever invited yo. I've attended 5 total, but 2 were family and three I was my exHs +1.

My DM says it's fine and understands the wedding is important but I feel bad my DD will miss out on her family because of the wedding, although my friend who's getting married is also very fond of my DD and she's said a few times she expects my DD to attend.

We can't really advise you on this OP, there's no right or wrong answer, just two different options. As you'll still see your family for two weeks I'd say go to the wedding.

I asked a friend and thought it was unthinkable to not spend as long with my family (that my DD needed her family). I already felt bad about it and it made me feel worse.

I would end up missing a wedding I've known about for longer than a year, and as sad as it is this is the first wedding I've been ever invited yo. I've attended 5 total, but 2 were family and three I was my exHs +1.i

Eh?

1 day for a friends wedding, (and be realistic at a wedding the B&G are usually so busy you don't get a lot of time with them) VS a week with family who you get on well with and your daughter will benefit time from.

You're still spending two weeks with family and the wedding will only happen once. Go to the wedding.

My DCs love their granny. They see her for about 4-5 days a year when we go on a half-term. She's had to drop travelling over to see us in recent years. The difference between 2 and 3 weeks won't affect their relationship.

Gooey I agree attending the wedding is for selfish reasons as I want to attend be the wedding as I haven't been to many and I like them!

My sister will be there at the same time (I genuinely don't get along with her) but she's not the reason why I'm not staying the three weeks.

If we only go for two weeks would be a few weeks later, my DD would have to return to the UK with my DH (her stepdad) and I don't know if that would be problematic in itself. I have to stay longer for work reasons.

Thanks Shiny that's very helpful.

It’s not selfish to do something to please yourself once in a while. You want to attend this wedding, it’s important to you. You don’t have to justify yourself to your friend or to us. Do what you want to do, enjoy it and then enjoy two weeks with your family.

I’m envious of anyone who has a good enough relationship with their mum to spend two weeks with them. Half a day with my mum and I am vibrating with the sheer effort of not rising to her bitchy digs and permanently negative attitude!