To be annoyed

[Back2Bali]

i dont think I am, this is more of a vent post really..

Spoke to MIL last night around 8pm. Had a good old natter like we do every evening. anyway 11:45 last night I'm fast asleep.... and my beeps..from the lounge.. I ignore it.. 11:46 it beeps again ... ignore it again then at midnight it starts ringing...a video chat so I answer thinking there must be an emergency she NEVER calls so late and DH nana is elderly and quite sick . .
She asks did you see it...
see what?
the photos,
photos of what?...
my christmas tree, where you asleep yes? Well look at the photos and call me back, its shit.
MIL I go to bed at 10pm almost every night you know this I will look tomorrow..
oh fine then go back to bed talk tomorrow and hangs up...

Who the hell calls and sends photos of their xmas tree to someone who they know goes to bed early every night because of the meds they are on and has fone for the last 4 years..(ill health).. well I never got back to sleep properly and have been up since!!

I have my phone set so nobody but started contacts can get through after 8pm incase of emergencies she has just called all chipper well did you see them.. i said no I dont keep my phone in my hand I was trying to bet back to sleep.... I get on amazing with my MIL. We really are like best friends!! She knows me better than my own family, But I'm so angry with her and she thinks I'm being off!!! Its 6:15 am yes I guess I am a little off as I've only had an hour and 45 mins solid sleep!!!

Literally could cry I'm that tired !!

That is very annoying YANBU!

I have the same when I have gone to bed before my dc and their crashing about wakes me up and then I am wide awake for ages while they 😴.

Also, she sounds very determined that you should see the tree!!! And maybe a little insensitive??

Had she been drinking ?

She doesnt drink weekdays and very rarely at weekends, she works for the government takes her job very seriously ... she had been winging about her tree yestersay and FIL had bought a new artificial one she wanted a real one.. I couldnt believe it!! I go to bed every night at 10pm and have done for 4 years! And she seemed like she was cross with me because I hadn't looked! Even on holidays i go to bed early. Holidays we've had together just us two .. I sleep terrible so im on medication which she knows, I looked at the photos the tree is bloody fine its lovely!

Who calls their MIL every night for a good natter. Stop encouraging her 😂

YABU. Put your phone on mute or Do Not Disturb if you don’t want to be bothered. Don’t expect other people to restrict their calls and messages to compensate for your own inability to work your phone properly.

Having a natter on the phone, every day does imply a close familiarity and maybe your MIL believes that she is allowed constant access to her.
You’ve probably enabled this familiarity.
You’ll have to reset boundaries with her if you want to avoid this happening again.

She called again at 6.15am after last night?! That is not normal!

If my phone rang at that hour I would presume it was an emergency. That's ridiculous carry on.

I do have a very good relationship with my mil. She has been more of mum to me than my own... @LittleReindeer my phone is set to do not disturb, and am fully capable of being use my phone correctly on my own.. thank you very much, but as her mum is an elderly ill women she can ring through he do not disturb.. she has never called at that time of night before she knows I am asleep.

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I'd be annoyed too and think it was really bizarre if my MIL did that, or anyone for that matter

It's like an unwritten rule I thought you dont phone anyone after 8/9ish when people are chilling/kids in bed/ 🤣🤣