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How to know if you should distance a friend

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Bambi1969 · 18/12/2019 23:40

Hi, bit of advice please. I have been friends with someone for about 15 years, met through kids school. Its complicated because she has had quite a lot of tragedy in her life but strangely she is one of the most unsympathetic and compassionate people I know. You would think she'd be more empathatic. Long story short because we have history and other mutual friends, I find it hard to break off the friendship, I try to be more distant and don't tell her everything anymore as she just uses it against me but she's not supportive at all when I need it and I just end up disappointed. Recently I text that my husband was admitted to hospital for eg and she didn't respond or brushes it off. I spend too much time worrying about it all because shes not all bad but shes not that nice either and I'm not sure what I get out of it really. I have other friends I spend more time with. Shes quite a jealous person too which is an ugly trait of hers. Any suggestions please? I've tried talking to her in the past when shes upset me but it doesn't really change anything long term

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Am I being unreasonable?


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Fatasfooook · 18/12/2019 23:43

Difficult but I’d continue to gradually distance from her. Stop caring about her.


TheoriginalLEM · 18/12/2019 23:45

You don't like her so don't spend time with her. It isnt difficult


dottydaily · 18/12/2019 23:49

she won’t change,either distance yourself gradually or learn to careless about her opinion and her actions.

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