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AIBU To hate our new boss?

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Starburst24 · 18/12/2019 20:06

Work in retail and this company 9 years. Have had about 5 bosses over the years and this one has been with us about 6 weeks.
He's odd. Very odd. Seems to have no personal skills at all.

One team meeting he singled out one young male and said the phrases:
good looking lad like you
bet you have a girl in every town
I bet you have one of those things you use at the meat counter, pull a number off and pick that girl for the night
My daughter asked if there was any got lads here

Poor lad was going redder by the second

He also said about the HR woman 'My beautiful assistant that works for ME"

He's gone through all our lockers with us individually and made us throw anything unwanted. He asked me if any of the coats or any other items on the books or benches were mine and I said no, I don't use the locker room. Asked me where I keep my personal belongings and I told him I keep them in my car. Seemed to think I was lying from the look he gave me

We've had to do training for GDPR and wanted to know who hadn't completed it. There was a small number and one of them is off sick as he's had an ok. He's adamant that he completed this at home and has demanding he does it. The blokes just had an operation ffs

Latest one is the Xmas party. Took his daughter who works elsewhere and didn't know anyone. Then they share a hotel room together. She's about 18. I find that really odd

He's banging on now that we have a summer bbq and a Xmas party every year
He will pay us to attend. Only this is hours taken from our weekly Rota. And we have to attend. I hate the works party I don't attend as I have an ear issue and can't stand loud noises as they make me dizzy, trigger bad tinnitus and give me severe migraines. He's actually said he's going to hire a field and marquee for the bbq

He was trying to "role pay" with a member of staff on a scenario and actually told her to shut up as he was trying to speak. I was gobsmacked at how rude he was to her. She wasn't being rude, she was asking questions that help us formulate a decision to best help a customer

He used the company approved messaging app to ask questions and if nobody answers him he says 'thanks for the seller's then adds a stupid gif to show he's pissed off.

I hate him. I think he's a compete prick, and I'm not the only one

Am I unreasonable to keep a log of his inappropriate comments and behaviour. Can he actually enforce this party crap? Am I not going to get paid if I don't attend as he's docking it out of my hours? Nothing in contract about having to attend parties

What the fuck do I do????

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GoGoLego · 18/12/2019 20:10

Does he have a line manager you could talk to. Or maybe another manager who might have a quiet word with him. On a show him the ropes this is how things are done here. Is he on probation? Could you speak to the person over seeing thy any process

Starburst24 · 18/12/2019 20:16

He’s the store manager so all the other managers are department managers. His direct boss is a scary guy who is the regional manager. I’m toying with the idea of logging stuff and then going to him and raise my concerns.
He’s not on probation. He’s our new permanent manager and likely to be for at least two years. I fear a lot are going to leave because of him, and I’ll be one of them as I can’t bear him.

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selmabear · 18/12/2019 20:24

Definitely keep a log of things he says and does, absolutely. Encourage everyone else not it down too. He sounds vile! If he works in retail then I'm assuming there's and area manager and then regional and HR. Definitely complain, and hopefully your colleagues will follow suit.

Starburst24 · 18/12/2019 20:31

Another colleague said she’d make a note too. There is a hierarchy of regional etc so I can get access to them if needs be. I just dread going in if I know he’s in too.

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MitziK · 18/12/2019 20:48

Does HR/Occy Health know about your ear issues?

If not, I'd let them know now. That way when the works do comes around, it's on paper that you have a protected characteristic - an ongoing health condition - that makes it medically inappropriate to be in a location with loud noises/amplified music and being threatened/compelled to attend in the light of the previously disclosed condition could be seen as a deliberate act that would exacerbate the condition and would put them at risk of breaching the law relating to equality.

Etinox · 18/12/2019 20:53

Keep a log but try not to get in the ring with him. You sound really upset.

Starburst24 · 18/12/2019 20:54

Good point. I’ll speak to our HR about my issues. The fire alarms set off my tinnitus actually

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Starburst24 · 18/12/2019 20:55

Etinox
It’s got to the point I’m seriously considering looking for a new job in the new year I’m that pissed off. But I will keep a log in the meantime

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Etinox · 18/12/2019 21:05

I’m sorry- it’s unbearable having a bad boss. Flowers

Paperthin · 22/04/2020 07:28

@Starburst24 what happened in the end? Did he stay?

CSIblonde · 22/04/2020 08:23

Going thru people's lockers with personal belongings in is beyond creepy, surely that's some invasion of privacy boundary crossed? The other stuff, yes, log, but on the quiet. He's sounds like he could get nasty. You have a medical issue re the work party, so let HR know.

ichifanny · 22/04/2020 09:04

He sounds like David Brent .

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