AIBU to not let my DH drive to work after a night of drinking?

[britinnyc]

We live in the US, his job deals with Europe so leaves for work at 4:30 am and drives. Last night was his office party, it started at 3 and they were out drinking till about 9. He came home at 930 so not late for a normal person but by the time he went to bed at around 10 that only made for 6 hours sleep. He had quite a lot to drink, whenever they have these office get togethers (only a handful of times a year) everyone gets drunk because they are tired and have several drinks before they eat anything. This morning I made him Uber to work and I will pick him up (have to run an errand near the office anyway) and I think he thinks I am crazy but I can't imagine how he wasn't over the limit to drive when he got up.

Also why don't men plan better? He ubered to work yesterday but wouldn't it have made more sense to drive, leave the car overnight (which is fine to do) and then uber this morning instead to avoid the issue of still being drunk on the road at 4:30 am?

Also why don't men plan better?

YANBU but this is not a 'man' issue. It's an arsehole issue. Only arseholes drive the morning after a skinful.

I'm very black and white when it comes to drink driving; you just don't need to, ever. Taxi, Uber, bus, train, loser cruiser, walk of shame, however you do it you don't need to endanger other road users by getting in your car.

You’re right. He should have driven in yesterday, left the car and then got an Uber home and then back to work this morning. That way it’s 2 Ubers and 2 drives. He’s now ended up with 3 Ubers and one lift from you. Makes no sense.

A lot of people don't realise about morning after drinking. Without knowing exactly what he drank no one could judge about whether he was legally allowed to drive. But planning an early morning drive after a party is usually madness

People tend to underestimate how long it takes for the alcohol to clear out of your system.

Would his work have an issue with him leaving his car overnight if he wasn't at work?

Just to play the devils advocate, when the new limits came in in the uk I spent a substantial amount of money on a really good, police standard breathalyser. I've been pleasantly surprised by how quickly it leave my system.

Regularly drinking until 1/2am and fine for driving by 9am. We've had it recalibrated on a few occasions to make sure all is right.

Obviously it depends on the person and a whole host of variable factors. I'd never drive if I didn't feel up to it or wobbly or whatever even if I blew clear, but in my experience it's not as bad as we've been lead to think

I always just think of those poor little boys who were killed by the footballer who drank, had a few hours of sleep, then drove.
How could anyone be so selfish as to take that risk?
Well done OP for insisting on the Uber.

You're totally right OP!