I don't want to go to my nephews christening

[Bethy1234]

Hi,
Long story short, we have nothing to do with my BIL and SIL. Despite having two children of our own they don't send cards for their birthdays, they don't see them at Christmas despite me asking. I'm ready to call time on our 'relationship'.
I find it offensive they dont care about my children, we weren't invited to their baby shower but we have been invited to the christening. I dont want to go and I dont want to drag my children along either.
Is it okay to say no thanks? I'd quite like to own my decision but can this be done without conflict?

It’s fine if you don’t attend the christening of a child when you have no connection with their parents.

Whether or not they kick off about it is another matter though!

Of course it's OK to say no.

Just say 'Thanks for the invitation but we already have plans on that date.' And leave it at that.

No way would I be going , sounds very similar to my bil and I've shown him as much interest in their new child as they always have done in mine ( zero ! )

Don’t go and say you’re busy with a prior commitment.
I’m guessing it’s your DH’s sibling though so he should be able to decide independently of you whether or not he wants to go and if he wants to take the children with him. You don’t have to accompany him though.

Just say you’re busy!

If you really don’t want to go, you could always just say I’m really sorry but we already have plans that can’t be changed that date but we hope you have a lovely day! To be honest I wouldn’t mind at all who did/didn’t come to a christening but I know some people can get annoyed. Either way it’s an invite not an obligation at the end of the day, and if you don’t want to go along that’s perfectly fine!

Of course you don't have to go, seriously put on your big lady pants and decline the invitation.

What does your DH want to do?

It's an invitation, not a summons (sorry, couldn't help it)
Just say no thank you!
And leave it at that.

I’d be sad about cutting off the relationship with the nephew. Just be sure that’s what you want.

Did either of them come to your children's Christenings, if you had them?

Dont go.

But if your dh wants to go with the kids, thata fine too.