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AIBU?

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Annoying sister

5 replies

itsgoodtobehome · 18/12/2019 15:16

I don’t really know what my AIBU is - I just need a vent and hear any opinions!!

My younger sister is very different to me. She is extremely ambitious, money oriented and class obsessed. She is very successful in her career and I am actually really proud of her. To enable this, she leads a very different lifestyle to me. She has 2 young children, but has a live in nanny, and her and her DH are literally out all of the time. They are either working or socialising. Hardly ever spend time with the kids. The only time she sees my parents are when they ask them to visit so that they can do childcare, and Dsis and her DH bugger off our leaving my parents to babysit.

Anyway, I met up with Dsis yesterday and she had a bit of a go at me for the fact that me, DH and DS are going away for Christmas this year. She said she couldn’t understand why we would want to be away from family at this time of year!! I was so cross - DH and DS are my family and I thought it was such a cheek coming from someone who dumps her kids at any opportunity. She also implied that we were weird for spending so much time together, just the 3 of us. I’m sorry, but my family is everything. I do have friends but I don’t want to see them all the time (unlike my sister who goes out with friends nearly every night). She called me anti social for not going out much. I totally bit my tongue and didn’t say what I thought - which was why did you even bother having kids if you don’t want to spend time with them. The oldest will be going to boarding school in 2 years which says it all really. 😢

OP posts:
mbosnz · 18/12/2019 15:55

Your sister is very rude, (and unselfaware), and you were very restrained, biting your tongue. Personally I'd have told her that when I wanted her opinion, I'd ask for it, but until then she can keep it to herself - and maybe make a bit more time for my own family rather than criticising how I choose to enjoy mine.

7yo7yo · 18/12/2019 16:29

Don’t know why you bit your tongue. I’d have said it

Motoko · 18/12/2019 16:34

Yeah, why did she have children? I can never understand people like that, and I feel really sorry for the kids, having parents who don't want to spend any time with them.

It's as though the children are accessories.

VisionQuest · 18/12/2019 16:42

She's a dick and yes I would have told her a few home truths.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 18/12/2019 16:47

Most of us listen to the song 'Cat's In The Cradle' and treat it as a warning, but it seems that some believe it to be a handy-hints manual for parenting.

Nice how she can casually call you anti-social for not abandoning your child at every opportunity, but I bet she'd be be outrageously offended (and probably never speak to you again) if you called her anti-parenting.

She and her DH will end up reaping what they have sown. I really pity their kids.

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