This happened last week but I am really not sure whether I was BU. I don't want to make it too long but also don't want to miss things out so bear with me.
My son is on a sport team last week they had their last game of the season, I am the manager and a friend (A) is the coach. Most weeks I drive and pick up the coach and his son so we can all go together. I have another friend (B) who's son is also on the team, she works on the nights of the game so every week she either drops her son to my house or to the coaches house and we give him a ride too. We live at least 30 minutes from the venue depending on traffic
Last week we had an earlier game than usual, which meant we would need to drive during rush hour, this is relevant as I was intending to take the back roads and not go through town. Initially my friend (B) said she would drop her son to my house at 5pm but later texted and said he was already at the coaches house so would get a ride with them. I said I was driving them so would also be driving her son. I text the coach (A) to say I will pick you up at 5:30, (to get to a 6:15 game) he says son isn't there right now he's out with B's son but he's sure it will be fine.
I show up at 5:35 and the boys aren't there, he calls his son and he says he is on a street which is in the centre of town, by the time the conversation is over it is 5:40 - so this give us 35 minutes to get there.
We tell them they've missed the ride and they need to catch the train as I don't want to drive into town potentially getting into traffic and making us all late and the coach wants to teach his son a lesson in being more responsible. They catch the train call me to pick them up from the station, which I do, but they've run from the station, are tired, and play really badly and we lose...
The story doesn't end here, on the weekend my friend B says she is disgusted that the coach has done that to the boys, they had apparently been on a bus nearly home (this is not what they told us) and they had to run to the train and then from the train and it was unacceptable, what kind of lesson was this etc. I said well actually I was driving so I was also responsible for leaving them to catch the train and they won't do it again will they!! We had a bit of an argument and she said - well next year I guess I'll just have to take him myself. I said well it being on next year depends on A coaching and me managing and it might not even happen, taking your own child to the game is the minimum effort to make!
So we argued but have made up but I am wondering now if IWBU to not pick them up, driving into town would have potentially made us late if the traffic was bad but not if it wasn't, also I think my judgment was clouded as we've managed and coached this team for four years and B's son is new this year and has basically wendied my son and my son has not enjoyed the team at all this year.