To think sensitive threads shouldn’t be posted to AIBU

[itsnotraworcold]

I’m not trying to be thread police but it just doesn’t end well and I start thinking troll as it seems to be for maximum attention and replies not for actual advice. Or AIBU and should eat a mince pie

Have you been at the Christmas sherry?

No. Have you?

I think people post in AIBU because it gets read.

Sensitive in what way @itsnotraworcold? There’s been some crazy ones lately that’s for sure!

What sorts of threads do you mean specifically?
I think sometimes the poster is looking for a bit of ‘tough love’ or a wake up call from commenters so posting in AIBU can be useful as a bit of a kick, and I’ve also seen some really compassionate and helpful replies to the more difficult subjects. Sometimes AIBU isn’t the best place for certain threads I agree, but other times commenters can respond with really mean spirited replies when it’s not really necessary as well.

I posted a sensitive thread a few weeks back not knowing where else to turn. I am so glad i did because i got some fantastic advice, the kindest replies, great support and it gave me somewhere free to talk about what i was going through when i felt i couldn't in real life.

I did though state in title that it was a trigger warning to give people warning so they could pass.

Please don't judge people because if one thread you've seen. I can't thank people enough who replied and helped me on mine.

Or perhaps people shouldn’t see AIBU as a free for all where they can pile in however they want.

It shouldn’t make any difference where someone posts, one part of the site doesn’t give anyone the right to react in a vile manner.

If a thread is sensitive then then the replies should be down to the users, it shouldn’t be down to the OP to watch where they post.

I think people new to the site don’t fully understand AIBU so post here by mistake. Usually after the initial baptism of fire they get the gist

And yes, you are trying to be thread police. You’re saying that if people are having a hard time they shouldn’t post in AIBU because they’ll be flamed and treated with contempt. perhaps someone ought to police the AIBU boards a bit more.

Recently there was a thread (now deleted because it was so upsetting) where an OP posted that she was in a seriously abusive relationship. The amount of victim blaming and vitriol directed towards her was revolting, and when this was questioned people had the audacity to say that OP should have posted in relationships. Why the fuck should she? Why can’t people just be aware that someone is reading regardless of where they post.

Not really. You’re being more thread police in that aggressive response

Well perhaps if didn’t want aggressive responses you shouldn’t have posted in AIBU eh?

"Well perhaps if didn’t want aggressive responses you shouldn’t have posted in AIBU eh?"

😂👏

AlternativePerspective

I sort of agree with you OP. But I think a lot of posters turning to MN for advice for the first time, perhaps because they are in a tough position, post in AIBU for traffic and don't realise the robust nature of the board.